As you have been hearing of several things that you will need to do to get your ex back, so are there several stuffs that you must avoid like a plague if you are still dreaming of having them back beside you.
Every process in life has its own dos and don'ts; the same goes for the process of getting your ex back.
It is not the best of practices for you to go begging immediately your ex breaks up with you.
You can bet me that instead of the begging to be doing any good; it will rather make things all the more complicated.
Instead of you to succeed in getting them, you will only succeed in pushing them away all the more.
After the break up, your ex will not fancy having you around at all.
They will want no other thing than to stay away from you as much as possible.
The pent up anger and bitterness of the break up will still be very fresh in their memory.
They will see you as the cause of the pain and this will make them not to be so disposed to have anything to do with you.
Any effort you therefore make to contact them will not be welcomed in the least.
Instead of seeking to contact your ex, it is better for you to leave them alone for now and let them be.
There is a huge possibility of time working on them and enabling them to overcome the pains and bitterness.
This way, they can easily come back to you on their own.
You should understand that living a dejected kind of life after the break up will never help you in getting your ex back.
It is not proper for you to turn yourself to an emotional wretch because you have just parted ways with your ex.
If they chance to come by you in that shattered and battered condition, they will never want to have anything to do with you.
It is therefore better for you to free yourself from the shackles of the past.
Learn to pick up the bits and pieces of your life and move forward, that way; you stand a better chance of getting your ex back after the breakup.