Break ups are painful and can cause a great deal of emotional havoc in our lives.
The first few weeks after the breakup is always the hardest, filled with depression, regret and aching loneliness.
During this period most of us will try to get in touch with him by sending him tones of email, text messages and telephone calls.
I will put this straight up - those are the worst things that you can do and here is why.
What many women are not aware of is that breakups can (strangely) make a relationship stronger.
Statistics shows that many couples that get back together after a short period of separation usually end up having a more fulfilling and longer relationship together.
The short separation period will make both partners how much they love each other.
Nevertheless, this is not always the case, especially if you start reacting harshly.
Calling him incessantly and leaving tones of text messages will only drive him away.
Any acts of desperation and declarations of love will also have the same effect.
There are several steps that you can take to ensure that you and your boyfriend can get back together.
If you play your cards right, you may find yourself back in his arms in no time.
The actions that you take immediately after the breakup will greatly determine your chances of getting back together.
The first thing that you need to do is to determine if he still have feelings for you.
It is a good sign if he mentions that 'we should be good friends' or anything along that line during the breakup.
It is also a good sign if he did not make any conscious effort to avoid seeing and bumping into you.
If you and your ex-lover are still on talking terms after the breakup where he constantly brings up all the 'happy memories' that you both had, this is an almost sure tell tale sign that he still have some feelings for you.
The next step to take is to let him know that you are doing fine without him.
To be honest, there is nothing un-sexier to a man than a needy, desperate and insecure woman.
Men are extremely turned off by neediness and acts of desperation so be sure to put up an 'I'm doing fabulous!' front even if you are not.
Go about your daily routine and get on with your life as normally as possible.
After witnessing that you are doing fine without him, believe it or not, he may start to have the tingling feeling that he wants you back.
Most men, even when it was them who initiated the breakup, tend to miss their ex-girlfriends especially during the first few weeks after the breakup.
These few weeks are the most crucial if you are planning to get back with your ex-boyfriend.
Subtly let them see that you are doing well without them.
As much as possible, you should not make any attempts (whether by phone, email, or text) to contact him.
The first few weeks after the breakup is always the hardest, filled with depression, regret and aching loneliness.
During this period most of us will try to get in touch with him by sending him tones of email, text messages and telephone calls.
I will put this straight up - those are the worst things that you can do and here is why.
What many women are not aware of is that breakups can (strangely) make a relationship stronger.
Statistics shows that many couples that get back together after a short period of separation usually end up having a more fulfilling and longer relationship together.
The short separation period will make both partners how much they love each other.
Nevertheless, this is not always the case, especially if you start reacting harshly.
Calling him incessantly and leaving tones of text messages will only drive him away.
Any acts of desperation and declarations of love will also have the same effect.
There are several steps that you can take to ensure that you and your boyfriend can get back together.
If you play your cards right, you may find yourself back in his arms in no time.
The actions that you take immediately after the breakup will greatly determine your chances of getting back together.
The first thing that you need to do is to determine if he still have feelings for you.
It is a good sign if he mentions that 'we should be good friends' or anything along that line during the breakup.
It is also a good sign if he did not make any conscious effort to avoid seeing and bumping into you.
If you and your ex-lover are still on talking terms after the breakup where he constantly brings up all the 'happy memories' that you both had, this is an almost sure tell tale sign that he still have some feelings for you.
The next step to take is to let him know that you are doing fine without him.
To be honest, there is nothing un-sexier to a man than a needy, desperate and insecure woman.
Men are extremely turned off by neediness and acts of desperation so be sure to put up an 'I'm doing fabulous!' front even if you are not.
Go about your daily routine and get on with your life as normally as possible.
After witnessing that you are doing fine without him, believe it or not, he may start to have the tingling feeling that he wants you back.
Most men, even when it was them who initiated the breakup, tend to miss their ex-girlfriends especially during the first few weeks after the breakup.
These few weeks are the most crucial if you are planning to get back with your ex-boyfriend.
Subtly let them see that you are doing well without them.
As much as possible, you should not make any attempts (whether by phone, email, or text) to contact him.
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