When a divorced parent starts dating they don't realize how their new relationship affects their kids.
Kids go through trauma when their parents divorce because they're in a comfort zone with both mom and dad who they love and want to be with.
Smaller kids are not affected as much as older ones.
They don't know what's going on and adapt to a new love in their parent's live much better.
The new guy in your life shows the kids attention and the little ones love it.
Your new relationship affects your kids at school and home and some get depressed missing their dad although he still sees them.
Seeing them and living with them are entirely different.
We don't see what the kids are really going through unless we've been through it ourselves.
Introducing your date to your kids to soon is a big mistake because if they like this guy and it doesn't work out for you, then the kids go through heart-break all over again.
Wait until you know someone real well and if the relationship is solid and he knows about your kids and seems thrilled at meeting them, then this is the time to introduce him to them.
Some women date one guy after another bringing them home to their kids making a bad impression.
It's a bad influence for the kids and as they grow older, they will think its OK for them to do the same thing.
Mostly it affects their personality, school grades and alters their way of thinking.
A good parent will put the welfare of their kids first regardless of what they have to sacrifice.
It does not mean you can't have a life too because you need companionship and when your kids grow up they will have their own lives.
Your new relationship must understand kids, love them and want to be a part of their lives.
He will never take their dad's place but he could be a second dad if he spends time with them and gives them a reason not to feel threatened by his presence.
Kids feel a new guy in your life will change your feelings toward them and they will feel abandoned.
They need to be reassured it will never happen that they are first in your life.
After you and your new love take the kids on picnics, to the park, zoo and other places kids enjoy going, he may just win their hearts.
You need to understand how your new relationship affects your kids so you can handle the situation and keep your kids happy and safe.
Kids go through trauma when their parents divorce because they're in a comfort zone with both mom and dad who they love and want to be with.
Smaller kids are not affected as much as older ones.
They don't know what's going on and adapt to a new love in their parent's live much better.
The new guy in your life shows the kids attention and the little ones love it.
Your new relationship affects your kids at school and home and some get depressed missing their dad although he still sees them.
Seeing them and living with them are entirely different.
We don't see what the kids are really going through unless we've been through it ourselves.
Introducing your date to your kids to soon is a big mistake because if they like this guy and it doesn't work out for you, then the kids go through heart-break all over again.
Wait until you know someone real well and if the relationship is solid and he knows about your kids and seems thrilled at meeting them, then this is the time to introduce him to them.
Some women date one guy after another bringing them home to their kids making a bad impression.
It's a bad influence for the kids and as they grow older, they will think its OK for them to do the same thing.
Mostly it affects their personality, school grades and alters their way of thinking.
A good parent will put the welfare of their kids first regardless of what they have to sacrifice.
It does not mean you can't have a life too because you need companionship and when your kids grow up they will have their own lives.
Your new relationship must understand kids, love them and want to be a part of their lives.
He will never take their dad's place but he could be a second dad if he spends time with them and gives them a reason not to feel threatened by his presence.
Kids feel a new guy in your life will change your feelings toward them and they will feel abandoned.
They need to be reassured it will never happen that they are first in your life.
After you and your new love take the kids on picnics, to the park, zoo and other places kids enjoy going, he may just win their hearts.
You need to understand how your new relationship affects your kids so you can handle the situation and keep your kids happy and safe.
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