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Updated March 26, 2015.

The Bottom Line

Bill Stillman, autistic himself, has written several books on the subject of parenting a child on the autism spectrum. His basic premise is "assume intellect," and it's a wonderful place to start as a parent. This book takes the idea many steps farther, sometimes to places where few parents will be able to follow. I also question the premise that the world must always be adapted to fit the needs of the child.



Pros

• A unique perspective
• Written by an adult with autism
• Easy to read and enjoy
• Includes some enlightened and interesting ideas
• Parent-friendly

Cons

• Perspective may not appeal to all readers
• Ideas suggested may not be practical

Description

• Paperback "parenting guide" by William Stillman
• 195 pages
• Published by Jossey-Bass, an imprint of Wiley
• Copyright 2009

Guide Review - Book Review: Empowered Autism Parenting by William Stillman

As I read this book, I found myself saying "Yes! Absolutely!" as I read one page, and then "No! That's ridiculous!" as I read the next. That's because, while Stillman's philosophy resonates with me, his practical recommendations are often -- in my opinion -- off the mark.

I am in complete sympathy with the idea that behaviors are a form of communication, and that it's imperative to help people with autism to find ways to communicate effectively. but I find it almost impossible to believe in "facilitated communication," since over and over again therapists are found to be leading the autistic communicator rather than vice versa.

I agree with Stillman that autism is over-pathologized. But I don't believe that we "don't medicate natural experiences." Yes, autism is natural -- but so are asthma and depression. As autism and other "natural" disorders impact our ability to engage in and enjoy life, we provide treatments (including medications) to alleviate the symptoms.

Overall, Stillman suggests that parents need to adapt themselves and their world to the real or apparent needs of their child with autism. Often, I agree: why force compliance with an artificial rule or expectation? Just as often, though, I disagree. If the child with autism is smart and loving, shouldn't we help him to overcome his challenges so that he can partake in the wide world?