Have you just gone through a breakup and finding yourself thinking about your ex - missing them like crazy? Are you hoping it's temporary? Chances are, at this point, you'd be willing to do just about anything to get them back.
It's important not to be too hard on yourself.
Emotions can get the best of us at a time like this and it's hard to know what moves to make next.
It's a fact that after every breakup, one person takes it harder than the other.
Usually it's the person who has been dumped.
Sound familiar? Unfortunately, this puts you at a disadvantage, psychologically, when it comes to dealing with your ex.
As long as you're on the defensive, they're going to be calling the shots and you're going to always feel as though you are one step behind.
The good news is that it's definitely something you can get over.
Where to go from here? Here are the first steps you should be taking this very minute: Don't wallow in self-pity.
This is not going to get you anywhere and you'll only succeed in making yourself feel worse.
Do not take a submissive role when dealing with your ex.
Stick up for yourself and don't beg or plead.
Fight the urge to contact him/her.
This is going to be one of the most difficult things you'll have to deal with, but it is vitally important that you make yourself scarce immediately following the breakup.
Show them you are getting on with your life and that you have the confidence and self-esteem to keep going despite everything that has happened.
Though this stance may seem a little harsh, it's the best way to deal with your ex at the moment.
Any kindness and affection shown by you will be like putting gasoline on a fire.
This works because you're able to get a little psychological power back.
Sure, it's tough love, but that's human nature and it is the only way your ex will ever have any respect for you, let alone feelings.
If you do this right, don't be surprised if they start sending the messages just to see how you're doing.