"No two situations are the same.
" This adage should be your guiding principle on starting a conversation with any one who would strike your fancy with the goal of either pick up or attract women.
But there is one commonality with women.
If you want to approach women, you must start with their present dilemma.
What dilemma can possibly a woman has, who sits at the bar drinking to herself? My friend, this is how to attract women: Everything starts with a good observation.
But, you don't just sit beside her impulsively and start something.
How to approach women? You should try to see first if she's waiting for someone to avoid getting yourself embarrassed especially when it's the boyfriend who will come later.
Save yourself from seeing yourself walking away with your pride on your feet and plant doubts on your skill on how to approach women.
Ancient Roman classical poet, Ovid, says: "At times it is folly to hasten at other times, to delay.
The wise do everything in its proper time.
" There are situations that you need to wait.
There are times that you don't.
But if the woman you want to approach happens to be at the bar for 15 to 20 minutes and no one is arriving to approach her, then, it's time for you to go and get her.
For the mean time, you sit back and assess.
You can always scan the place for other prospectives.
But if it's her, then try to observe if she scans the place, too.
Chances are, she's not waiting for anyone.
Then...
approach and try this line: "When I saw you come in, I thought you were waiting for someone.
" She may reply with a smile or say no or she may say that she wasn't or any lame excuse that she cannot sleep or just want to unwind.
You can always start the conversation rolling but you are at a loss with a woman of few words, right? What to say next when she only smiled? You can say: "Hey, that says a lot.
Is that a sadness I see there?" or start with "My mother used to say (even if your mother did not say so), that we should live for others, we should live for ourselves.
" Women find it comfortable to respond to men who speak affectionately of women in their lives especially if they talk about their mothers.
She may respond that your mom is a wise woman or that your mom is right.
But definitely she will respond.
You can take the conversation from there and introduce yourself first or ask her name.
Next, what if you are sitting alone in the bar, and this great lady sits and asks for a drink from the bartender.
She may or may not start a conversation but if she don't, you can just hum a loves song to yourself.
Let me tell you why this one works.
I was at a coffee shop and reading a book.
There was this gentleman whose chair was opposite mine, that we were basically back-to-back.
I can hear him hum a love song silently to himself and silently uttered to himself: "what was the title of that song?" Amused, I replied: "Love me for what I am by the Carpenters.
" He turned around and looked at me and said, "Nice song, ain't it?" and when I replied that it's my favorite song, he asked if he could keep me company if I am waiting for someone so I would not get bored.
I said yes.
You see, in order to attract women, men should show some softness once in a while.
Though we are attracted to the strong, muscular and assertive ones, it doesn't mean that we don't wish men would show their soft spots.
It is a good wick to start the conversation.
Mind you, that day we chatted for hours about almost anything.
No, I will not tell you what happened after that.
What I am trying to tell you is that whether you want to approach a woman at the bar, or that lone woman reading a book at the coffee shop, you don't always need to be the aggressive one.
If that song (or any song for that matter) triggered me to talk to that gentleman, any woman will.
" This adage should be your guiding principle on starting a conversation with any one who would strike your fancy with the goal of either pick up or attract women.
But there is one commonality with women.
If you want to approach women, you must start with their present dilemma.
What dilemma can possibly a woman has, who sits at the bar drinking to herself? My friend, this is how to attract women: Everything starts with a good observation.
But, you don't just sit beside her impulsively and start something.
How to approach women? You should try to see first if she's waiting for someone to avoid getting yourself embarrassed especially when it's the boyfriend who will come later.
Save yourself from seeing yourself walking away with your pride on your feet and plant doubts on your skill on how to approach women.
Ancient Roman classical poet, Ovid, says: "At times it is folly to hasten at other times, to delay.
The wise do everything in its proper time.
" There are situations that you need to wait.
There are times that you don't.
But if the woman you want to approach happens to be at the bar for 15 to 20 minutes and no one is arriving to approach her, then, it's time for you to go and get her.
For the mean time, you sit back and assess.
You can always scan the place for other prospectives.
But if it's her, then try to observe if she scans the place, too.
Chances are, she's not waiting for anyone.
Then...
approach and try this line: "When I saw you come in, I thought you were waiting for someone.
" She may reply with a smile or say no or she may say that she wasn't or any lame excuse that she cannot sleep or just want to unwind.
You can always start the conversation rolling but you are at a loss with a woman of few words, right? What to say next when she only smiled? You can say: "Hey, that says a lot.
Is that a sadness I see there?" or start with "My mother used to say (even if your mother did not say so), that we should live for others, we should live for ourselves.
" Women find it comfortable to respond to men who speak affectionately of women in their lives especially if they talk about their mothers.
She may respond that your mom is a wise woman or that your mom is right.
But definitely she will respond.
You can take the conversation from there and introduce yourself first or ask her name.
Next, what if you are sitting alone in the bar, and this great lady sits and asks for a drink from the bartender.
She may or may not start a conversation but if she don't, you can just hum a loves song to yourself.
Let me tell you why this one works.
I was at a coffee shop and reading a book.
There was this gentleman whose chair was opposite mine, that we were basically back-to-back.
I can hear him hum a love song silently to himself and silently uttered to himself: "what was the title of that song?" Amused, I replied: "Love me for what I am by the Carpenters.
" He turned around and looked at me and said, "Nice song, ain't it?" and when I replied that it's my favorite song, he asked if he could keep me company if I am waiting for someone so I would not get bored.
I said yes.
You see, in order to attract women, men should show some softness once in a while.
Though we are attracted to the strong, muscular and assertive ones, it doesn't mean that we don't wish men would show their soft spots.
It is a good wick to start the conversation.
Mind you, that day we chatted for hours about almost anything.
No, I will not tell you what happened after that.
What I am trying to tell you is that whether you want to approach a woman at the bar, or that lone woman reading a book at the coffee shop, you don't always need to be the aggressive one.
If that song (or any song for that matter) triggered me to talk to that gentleman, any woman will.
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