Most women NEVER understands what happens when they try to CONVINCE a man to make a commitment in their relationship.
They Keep Making The Same Mistakes Over And Over Again...
The typical common, frustrating, and destructive male response is usually WITHDRAW and RETREAT.
Talk about "Shock and Awe".
The woman is blindsided when the man suddenly decides that the relationship isn't working for him anymore and decides to opt-out of the relationship.
You thought it was a mutually satisfying relationship and you were ready to step-it-up to the next level of commitment.
And instead, he breaks up with you.
You were looking for More love and affection, More understanding and More connection.
Instead - You get The Boot.
What's going on here and how do you fix it? The first thing you should know is that men generally don't take it well when a woman starts asking for a commitment.
It's taken as a sign of neediness, clinginess and a loss of freedom.
If a man is feeling the same level of connectedness and intimacy that you are...
Don't Worry...
he'll ask you to make a commitment.
Women are almost always ready to make a commitment before a man.
You can get your man to make the commitment...
But you have to do it the right way.
You do that by inviting the commitment...
Don't Demand It! If you find that you start a lot of your sentences with the words: I need...
I want...
You should...
You need to...
Then you're talking from the place of ENTITLEMENT.
What this means is that you feel like you are "entitled" or that you deserve to have your man do or say something which will make you feel better about yourself or the relationship.
When you're feeling vulnerable or hurt, and start telling him, "You should" or "You need to", you probably won't get the kind of reaction you're hoping for.
Instead of seeing how you FEEL, a man will simply WITHDRAW and back even further away from you.
A man has to have HIS OWN REASONS for wanting to do all the things that make you happy and keep your relationship strong.
You can never, ever, ever tell a man how to act or feel - just like a man should never tell you how to act or what you should be feeling.
But you can INSPIRE him, and you can share what it is that you want from the relationship.
The secret to having a relationship where the man is irresistibly attracted and devoted to you is for you to inspire him, not tell, demand or try to convince him.
Don't Make Demands! Instead - INVITE him, by opening up and making it easy for him to give you what you want or need.
Men love to make you happy as a woman if it feels easy to do - but only when they feel like it's THEIR CHOICE.
And this is easy - once you know how.
You can inspire your man to respond to you by doing 2 things...
1) Using your sexy femininity to captivate and motivate him.
2) Simply by changing the way you phrase things.
Instead of saying, "I need you to take me to...
" You can say, "It would really help me out if you could take me to...
" "And I'll return the favor in kind".
These words work like MAGIC! INSPIRE your man to want to give you more of what you want and need.
He'll be a willing participant if he knows "The favor will be returned in kind.
"
They Keep Making The Same Mistakes Over And Over Again...
The typical common, frustrating, and destructive male response is usually WITHDRAW and RETREAT.
Talk about "Shock and Awe".
The woman is blindsided when the man suddenly decides that the relationship isn't working for him anymore and decides to opt-out of the relationship.
You thought it was a mutually satisfying relationship and you were ready to step-it-up to the next level of commitment.
And instead, he breaks up with you.
You were looking for More love and affection, More understanding and More connection.
Instead - You get The Boot.
What's going on here and how do you fix it? The first thing you should know is that men generally don't take it well when a woman starts asking for a commitment.
It's taken as a sign of neediness, clinginess and a loss of freedom.
If a man is feeling the same level of connectedness and intimacy that you are...
Don't Worry...
he'll ask you to make a commitment.
Women are almost always ready to make a commitment before a man.
You can get your man to make the commitment...
But you have to do it the right way.
You do that by inviting the commitment...
Don't Demand It! If you find that you start a lot of your sentences with the words: I need...
I want...
You should...
You need to...
Then you're talking from the place of ENTITLEMENT.
What this means is that you feel like you are "entitled" or that you deserve to have your man do or say something which will make you feel better about yourself or the relationship.
When you're feeling vulnerable or hurt, and start telling him, "You should" or "You need to", you probably won't get the kind of reaction you're hoping for.
Instead of seeing how you FEEL, a man will simply WITHDRAW and back even further away from you.
A man has to have HIS OWN REASONS for wanting to do all the things that make you happy and keep your relationship strong.
You can never, ever, ever tell a man how to act or feel - just like a man should never tell you how to act or what you should be feeling.
But you can INSPIRE him, and you can share what it is that you want from the relationship.
The secret to having a relationship where the man is irresistibly attracted and devoted to you is for you to inspire him, not tell, demand or try to convince him.
Don't Make Demands! Instead - INVITE him, by opening up and making it easy for him to give you what you want or need.
Men love to make you happy as a woman if it feels easy to do - but only when they feel like it's THEIR CHOICE.
And this is easy - once you know how.
You can inspire your man to respond to you by doing 2 things...
1) Using your sexy femininity to captivate and motivate him.
2) Simply by changing the way you phrase things.
Instead of saying, "I need you to take me to...
" You can say, "It would really help me out if you could take me to...
" "And I'll return the favor in kind".
These words work like MAGIC! INSPIRE your man to want to give you more of what you want and need.
He'll be a willing participant if he knows "The favor will be returned in kind.
"
Source...