A satisfying first date, so far: you both have enjoyed the restaurant, which serves up good food and better ambiance, but as the candlelight dinner ends, the prospect of suggesting a second date (and having it accepted) looms large.
Don't fool yourself; this is a crucial moment.
If you have listened to and begun to understand your date, your chances of setting up a second soirée increase greatly.
Dating itself, and modern courtship in general, revolves around positive first impressions.
Take great care and consideration at every stage and you'll be well on your way.
The initial step, of course, is getting to that restaurant in the first place.
Dating sites are a resource that many people don't admit to using, but most of us have scanned through in lonely or idle moments.
There are pros and cons to such services.
In general, the advantage is that they're easily accessible, fast, and efficient at arranging a date based on your own personal interests.
It's one plus of the Internet age that you can scan through hundreds and hundreds of profiles and have an excellent chance of finding someone you'll be interested in.
You may have gathered that getting a second date mostly depends on how smoothly the first one goes.
Increase your chances by thinking ahead; take care to arrange an occasion your date is likely to enjoy.
This isn't a matter of modifying you behavior to suit them, but rather being sensitive to their preferences and beliefs.
Don't get caught taking someone who doesn't like ethnic food to an eatery that doesn't offer them any options.
You should start by setting up the right conditions, but the question remains, just how exactly do you get to the second date? Depending on how well the first date one went, there are many methods of arranging a second, and many specific times.
It must be said that closing the deal on the first date is ambitious and only an opportunity for the most confident of suitors.
Closing the second date afterwards, by text or phone, is probably a better choice for most situations.
In this technological age texting is probably the most common choice.
Exchanging casual messages is a widely accepted way to actively flirt with your date and eventually broach the topic of another date.
Then, as your relationship develops, you can take this flirtation to another level.
Phoning is another way to accomplish the same.
The unspoken rule: the man calls two days after the first date.
Call sooner and you risk appearing too desperate, wait longer and you risk coming off as uninterested; you don't want your partner to move on.
Choose wisely how much time you allow after the first date, and don't forget to mention how much you enjoyed it! The alternative situation is asking for another date before the first is over, something that only the boldest of you will attempt.
Consider your decision.
Of course you don't want to turn your partner off, but if you find that there's some chemistry, you may find yourself arranging a second before you know it.
This is probably your primary aim, but even if you don't hit it off immediately, you can still call or text to arrange something.
Having read this far, you've learned some valuable methods for setting up a second date.
One of the many challenges of modern relationships is finding someone you might be compatible with and then putting the right foot forward.
Put this advice into action and you should be closing a second date with all of your dates!