This is what Richard Bandler, one of the creators of NLP said: 'Here you are fighting with each other; making each other feel bad.
Was that what you wanted when you decided to get together in the first place? It does not make sense to me.
I thought people get together to make each other feel good?' Good point, don't you think? As we know, personal relationships are important to people, we are just not designed to be alone.
After all, those hormones need to be put to the test and the frontal lobes need to have some challenges.
All of us need friends, lovers, and companions; people who can share our experiences, fears, happiness and worries.
Sure, some of us don't need as many friendships as others; still, all of us need some friendships and a feeling of belonging.
Many of us learn to be confused about many things in life including relationships.
We may want love but may witness heartache and/or pain.
We may witness people saying one thing but doing another.
When we are in such an environment, it is a challenge trying to make sense of the world and often we become disillusioned.
The fairytale of the prince and the princess just does not seem to exist! Don't forget that each and every person has his or her own reality.
We are all different.
No two people on this earth are the same, because all of us have our own reality.
So, if you think that you have to do this or say that it will work, I will have to disappoint you.
Certain strategies may work on some but not on others.
However there is a key that will open all doors.
This key is the key that opens their door to getting what they need.
Remember, having positive outcomes is what all of us want.
And, everybody wants different outcomes.
Some of us need to be beaten up to feel loved; others need to talk on the phone three times per day to feel loved.
All of us have different needs, different strategies for showing and receiving love.
So, the more we find out about the other person, the more likely we will be able to know if they are what we want and if we can give them what they want! If someone does not make us feel good, we may be better off to say goodbye.
A good friend of mine, Jody, once said something that stayed with me.
I don't think that she was aware of the power of that statement.
She said: 'You don't have to go through a lot of pain to learn, you don't have to pay a high price for happiness.
' And she is so right.
Often I hear people say, 'Well, maybe I just needed to have these bad experiences to learn!' In my opinion that is absolute nonsense.
We don't have to go through many bad experiences to learn how to get it right.
Why? We can learn how to do it right, how to feel good by just examining how and what we are doing.
Was that what you wanted when you decided to get together in the first place? It does not make sense to me.
I thought people get together to make each other feel good?' Good point, don't you think? As we know, personal relationships are important to people, we are just not designed to be alone.
After all, those hormones need to be put to the test and the frontal lobes need to have some challenges.
All of us need friends, lovers, and companions; people who can share our experiences, fears, happiness and worries.
Sure, some of us don't need as many friendships as others; still, all of us need some friendships and a feeling of belonging.
Many of us learn to be confused about many things in life including relationships.
We may want love but may witness heartache and/or pain.
We may witness people saying one thing but doing another.
When we are in such an environment, it is a challenge trying to make sense of the world and often we become disillusioned.
The fairytale of the prince and the princess just does not seem to exist! Don't forget that each and every person has his or her own reality.
We are all different.
No two people on this earth are the same, because all of us have our own reality.
So, if you think that you have to do this or say that it will work, I will have to disappoint you.
Certain strategies may work on some but not on others.
However there is a key that will open all doors.
This key is the key that opens their door to getting what they need.
Remember, having positive outcomes is what all of us want.
And, everybody wants different outcomes.
Some of us need to be beaten up to feel loved; others need to talk on the phone three times per day to feel loved.
All of us have different needs, different strategies for showing and receiving love.
So, the more we find out about the other person, the more likely we will be able to know if they are what we want and if we can give them what they want! If someone does not make us feel good, we may be better off to say goodbye.
A good friend of mine, Jody, once said something that stayed with me.
I don't think that she was aware of the power of that statement.
She said: 'You don't have to go through a lot of pain to learn, you don't have to pay a high price for happiness.
' And she is so right.
Often I hear people say, 'Well, maybe I just needed to have these bad experiences to learn!' In my opinion that is absolute nonsense.
We don't have to go through many bad experiences to learn how to get it right.
Why? We can learn how to do it right, how to feel good by just examining how and what we are doing.
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