When your child has ODD, the frustrations that you feel as a parent are never simple and easy. Support can be a challenge to get. Other parents often just assume that you can't control your kid.
In some ways, there is a truth to this. Your child often seems to be out of control, right? However, with ODD, support isn't just about getting your kid to behave like a normal kid. It's about gaining an understanding of why kids behave the way they do. And specifically, it's about what makes your child different from the rest.
All kids, no matter how old they are or what their background is, have a basic built-in program to want to get the things the want. Everyone comes equipped with this basic desire. Sometimes, being defiant is a part of the strategy that kids will use to get what they want. And often, it works very well; especially in cases where a guardian has shown he's unwilling or unable to apply discipline.
Our world is changing daily, in many ways. The ways our parents disciplined us are sometimes not accepted anymore. But when do we get any kind of education or help in how to discipline kids today? There is a constant barrage of instruction coming at us from TV shows, but often it's conflicting in nature.
Sometimes it's easy enough to get help from other parents. But other times you just need to turn to a productive and proven social worker for help. James Lehman is one such social worker who has worked with a lot of kids with ODD. He's worth turning to if you need ODD support with your child.
Lehman's years of experience have led him to a clear conclusion: it's not just the behavior of ODD children that is wrong - the real problem is the way in which they form decisions to behave in these ways.
The way Lehman describes it, this is caused by a "thinking error", which he suggests is learned, usually, at an early age. Unlike a math class where you can show your work to prove you came to an answer in a logical manner, decisions regarding day to day behavior are not as easily checked.
When a child has a flaw in the way he arrives at simple behavior decisions, it only gets more flawed with more complex decisions. Often these major flaws can be fixed by solving the underlying basic flaw in the child's thinking.
When working with a child who has ODD, support is for both you and the child. Fixing these thinking errors is sometimes all you need to do.
In some ways, there is a truth to this. Your child often seems to be out of control, right? However, with ODD, support isn't just about getting your kid to behave like a normal kid. It's about gaining an understanding of why kids behave the way they do. And specifically, it's about what makes your child different from the rest.
All kids, no matter how old they are or what their background is, have a basic built-in program to want to get the things the want. Everyone comes equipped with this basic desire. Sometimes, being defiant is a part of the strategy that kids will use to get what they want. And often, it works very well; especially in cases where a guardian has shown he's unwilling or unable to apply discipline.
Our world is changing daily, in many ways. The ways our parents disciplined us are sometimes not accepted anymore. But when do we get any kind of education or help in how to discipline kids today? There is a constant barrage of instruction coming at us from TV shows, but often it's conflicting in nature.
Sometimes it's easy enough to get help from other parents. But other times you just need to turn to a productive and proven social worker for help. James Lehman is one such social worker who has worked with a lot of kids with ODD. He's worth turning to if you need ODD support with your child.
Lehman's years of experience have led him to a clear conclusion: it's not just the behavior of ODD children that is wrong - the real problem is the way in which they form decisions to behave in these ways.
The way Lehman describes it, this is caused by a "thinking error", which he suggests is learned, usually, at an early age. Unlike a math class where you can show your work to prove you came to an answer in a logical manner, decisions regarding day to day behavior are not as easily checked.
When a child has a flaw in the way he arrives at simple behavior decisions, it only gets more flawed with more complex decisions. Often these major flaws can be fixed by solving the underlying basic flaw in the child's thinking.
When working with a child who has ODD, support is for both you and the child. Fixing these thinking errors is sometimes all you need to do.
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