Being parents is one job that many get into without any qualification.
There isn't even a job description, and the pay varies: the first 10 years it's unconditional love and the next 10 years it's unconditional headache.
Let's have a look at how you can set an example for your kids in the area of communication.
Set an example Between zero and seven kids are like sponges, they suck up everything they see and hear.
That's why this period is called the imprinting period.
Between seven and fourteen they enter into the modeling phase, so everything they have taken in so far will also be played back.
So don't be surprise if your teen is talking to your in an argumentative way - they must have picked it up somewhere and most probably they have spent the most time with you and the family.
No cursing, damn it! Don't use the words you don't want your children to say.
If you ask them to act and speak in a proper fashion without cursing, you have to set the example first.
Don't ask them to do different to you, it's not going to happen.
If your children use language you feel is inappropriate, tell them and let them know ways in which they can express their emotions in a more suitable way.
Don't yell at me! The same applies to yelling.
Watch the way you and your partner speak: Do you sometimes or often yell at each other in front of the children? Stop it if you don't want them to pick it up.
If you yell your children will not listen to you and you will not be in an emotional state to be able to come up with creative solutions.
Give yourself a break if you feel that you're about to lose control and come back to the situation later.
Don't lie If your children ask questions you don't know the answers to, say so.
If they ask something you don't want to tell, say so.
If you lie, the chances are good they will find out or that they can feel it or figure it out anyway.
This creates distrust, frustration and anger, which I'm sure you don't want to store up in your relationship.
Sarcasm Some people use sarcasm as a way to make fun.
In a conversation or an argument it is often used in an emotional state to ridicule or hurt the other.
Your children might be too young to understand the meaning, but they'll get a sense of the meaning.
Sarcasm is an unnecessary form of communication and, just like with the other topics, if you don't want your children to use it back with you later, leave it out of your communication with your children.
There isn't even a job description, and the pay varies: the first 10 years it's unconditional love and the next 10 years it's unconditional headache.
Let's have a look at how you can set an example for your kids in the area of communication.
Set an example Between zero and seven kids are like sponges, they suck up everything they see and hear.
That's why this period is called the imprinting period.
Between seven and fourteen they enter into the modeling phase, so everything they have taken in so far will also be played back.
So don't be surprise if your teen is talking to your in an argumentative way - they must have picked it up somewhere and most probably they have spent the most time with you and the family.
No cursing, damn it! Don't use the words you don't want your children to say.
If you ask them to act and speak in a proper fashion without cursing, you have to set the example first.
Don't ask them to do different to you, it's not going to happen.
If your children use language you feel is inappropriate, tell them and let them know ways in which they can express their emotions in a more suitable way.
Don't yell at me! The same applies to yelling.
Watch the way you and your partner speak: Do you sometimes or often yell at each other in front of the children? Stop it if you don't want them to pick it up.
If you yell your children will not listen to you and you will not be in an emotional state to be able to come up with creative solutions.
Give yourself a break if you feel that you're about to lose control and come back to the situation later.
Don't lie If your children ask questions you don't know the answers to, say so.
If they ask something you don't want to tell, say so.
If you lie, the chances are good they will find out or that they can feel it or figure it out anyway.
This creates distrust, frustration and anger, which I'm sure you don't want to store up in your relationship.
Sarcasm Some people use sarcasm as a way to make fun.
In a conversation or an argument it is often used in an emotional state to ridicule or hurt the other.
Your children might be too young to understand the meaning, but they'll get a sense of the meaning.
Sarcasm is an unnecessary form of communication and, just like with the other topics, if you don't want your children to use it back with you later, leave it out of your communication with your children.
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