Every human being wants to be happy.
Every woman, man, couple or single person is seeking happiness.
Some find it but for others it seems to elude them.
In some cases it comes but temporarily and vanishes again.
Here are some of the things that one could do to find happiness or not do and never experience it.

1. Expectations Some people come across happiness but can not recognise it as their expectations are higher than what they are experiencing.
   They do not seem to recognise the essential elements in their life that are catalyst to their happiness.
   For instance, some people cannot find happiness in the place or area they are living because they expect that they should live like the Joneses who live across the street.
   Their house looks too small compared to their neighbours and they have a lowly paid job.
   Their happiness can only come after they have fulfilled all their natural wishes.
   Some women cannot be happy in their marriages because their husband does not act like their friend's husband, bringing flowers etc.
   These high expectations have robbed a lot of people their only chance at happiness and as not everyone is blessed or gifted the same way; it becomes a futile exercise, chasing after the wind till the day they die.
   
2. Gratitude If only we could learn to be grateful for everything.
   God desires that we be grateful in everything.
   Even if we feel inferior or not as good as the other person, we should be grateful for the mere chance to exist on this earth.
   Whenever one feels like they are poor, not talented enough or unlucky, one should learn to be grateful for that which they are able to do as it serves a purpose.
   Life is not about having everything, it is also not a competition, but each person makes the world complete by their little contribution.
   Therefore, being grateful for the air we breathe, the little food we eat, the small house, the husband or wife we have could make a difference to how we perceive happiness and fill us with so much joy.
   
3. Forgiveness Anger is a spirit and grudges are demons and these things should never be allowed to control us.
   Many people are bound and are living in self-made prisons as they carry pounds of anger around.
   It could be anger at their parents, spouse, neighbour or employer.
   It is vital that one should learn to forgive and let go of this anger or grudges.
   Un-forgiveness is also a bad spirit which does not hurt the un-forgiven but binds and destroys the one carrying it.
   It is difficult for one to be truly happy unless they let go of anger, un-forgiveness and grudges.
   
4. Love Love is the greatest and new commandment given for mankind in order to live a truly happy and successful life.
   God loves us and has commanded us to love one another.
   Man should love God, love himself and also love his neighbour the way he loves himself.
   This commandment is usually broken when man either chooses to love God but hate himself or his neighbour.
   Alternatively, he could love himself and his neighbour and forget about God.
   As long as this commandment is broken, one cannot find true happiness.
   
5. Purpose and Peace It is difficult to be truly happy without peace on the inside.
   One can try to portray a semblance of happiness but it is fake happiness as long as the mind, will and emotions are in turmoil.
   In the beginning, God created men and women in his image for his purposes.
   It is my conviction that one can only find peace when living according to God's will.
   Therefore it is important for one to find out what God's will or purpose for their life is and pursue it.
   For example some are created to serve others as Doctors, Nurses, Pastors and Teachers.
   Others were created to go into business and raise money to support their families and nations.
   Yet others are musicians for purposes of entertaining, some actors, others preachers of the Gospel.
   Find out your purpose and live to fulfil it and you will find true happiness.