I will start by letting you know I am not a professional counselor or doctor nor will I pretend to be one, but I can tell you what I have learned having gone through a breakup recently.
I wish with all my heart that you can find hope and relieve to the pain you are experiencing at this moment.
I myself searched everywhere for so many unanswered questions and talked to anyone and everyone that was willing to listen until their ears bled.
I will share with you the most important things I learned having done extensive research on the matter and putting it into practice myself.
What we need to do now is make sure you are not making the biggest mistakes that will push your love farther away from you starting right this minute.
Initiating contact - Do not be the first to call, text or send e-mail.
I am not suggesting you should ignore your ex, but by staying out of site long enough and giving them some space you are creating curiosity inside him or her.
Soon your ex will start to wonders what you may be doing.
If you do not get lost for a while, you are not giving your ex the chance to miss you.
Begging - This is perhaps the biggest mistake that will prevent you from getting back together.
Begging is usually unsuccessful or does not bring a positive, permanent change.
Being desperate will do nothing but push your ex away.
You can not rush things, specially if he or she is unsure or does not want to be with you right now.
This act is a turn-off, and the automatic response to it might be resistance.
Try hard not to come off as needy or clingy.
Making your ex jealous - Some will advice you to make your ex jealous by either getting a new lover or even worst by flirting with people your ex knows.
This is a terrible idea and it will make you look insecure and desperate, this is the last thing you want to do right now.
In fact this is the time that you should try hard to appear confident and put together, even if you are not at the moment.
All for the sake of making yourself more attractive in front of your ex.
If this does not convince you just imaging if your ex can actually sense the correct purpose of your action, you will end up looking quite stupid.
If you goal is to get your ex back and not start dating new people, avoid doing this at all cost.
While you are avoiding these mistakes, concentrate on yourself.
Set up new goals for your own personal life.
Once your ex realizes you can be someone they will never imaging you could be, they will begin to feel it was a big mistake to let you go.
They will resent the fact that you are moving on so easily and might even consider they are not good enough for you.
Soon after that, your ex will come begging you to get back together.
It worked for me.