After a breakup, most people want nothing more than getting their ex back and make everything "right".
In fact sometimes, even if the relationship was unhealthy, they feel incomplete until they get their ex back.
Let's start with a warning! If there has ever been physical violence or verbal abuse used to hurt either one of you during the relationship, you should consider yourself lucky that you ARE broke up.
This is obviously not what you want to hear; however the interactions described in this type of relationship is about as unhealthy as it gets.
If you were in a relationship like that and your ex broke up with you consider yourself lucky and learn from the experience.
Most relationships however follow a pretty predictable pattern.
When you first meet someone then everything is wonderful and new.
Your partner can do no wrong and you can do no wrong in their eyes.
After a short while, a sort of blissful comfort sets in and you adjust to each other.
With some time, the newness begins to fade away and "things" in the relationship appear to change.
The little quirks you were found so adorable at first now somehow annoys you in some way.
For some, it seems like a fog is lifting or a mask is taken off the relationship.
This is usually a turning point.
There is an expression: "Familiarity breeds contempt.
" Truer words could not have been spoken for relationships.
After a couple gets comfortable and familiar with each other, trouble usually starts.
This is exactly what tests the strength of the relationship.
It takes consistent work and effort to maintain a relationship.
Sometimes when problems occur, the other person may want out of the relationship completely, rather that working together to repair it.
It is important at this "Turning Point Stage" to take a thorough and honest assessment of the relationship.
Even more important is the decision you make to continue the relationship and to work on it...
Or to move on and find someone else more compatible.
The decision you make at this point could give you a life filled with love and all that love brings...
Or it could bring a life filled with frustration.
Take off the rose colored glasses before making an honest decision.
In fact sometimes, even if the relationship was unhealthy, they feel incomplete until they get their ex back.
Let's start with a warning! If there has ever been physical violence or verbal abuse used to hurt either one of you during the relationship, you should consider yourself lucky that you ARE broke up.
This is obviously not what you want to hear; however the interactions described in this type of relationship is about as unhealthy as it gets.
If you were in a relationship like that and your ex broke up with you consider yourself lucky and learn from the experience.
Most relationships however follow a pretty predictable pattern.
When you first meet someone then everything is wonderful and new.
Your partner can do no wrong and you can do no wrong in their eyes.
After a short while, a sort of blissful comfort sets in and you adjust to each other.
With some time, the newness begins to fade away and "things" in the relationship appear to change.
The little quirks you were found so adorable at first now somehow annoys you in some way.
For some, it seems like a fog is lifting or a mask is taken off the relationship.
This is usually a turning point.
There is an expression: "Familiarity breeds contempt.
" Truer words could not have been spoken for relationships.
After a couple gets comfortable and familiar with each other, trouble usually starts.
This is exactly what tests the strength of the relationship.
It takes consistent work and effort to maintain a relationship.
Sometimes when problems occur, the other person may want out of the relationship completely, rather that working together to repair it.
It is important at this "Turning Point Stage" to take a thorough and honest assessment of the relationship.
Even more important is the decision you make to continue the relationship and to work on it...
Or to move on and find someone else more compatible.
The decision you make at this point could give you a life filled with love and all that love brings...
Or it could bring a life filled with frustration.
Take off the rose colored glasses before making an honest decision.
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