I don't know about you, but most men fall into one of two categories when it comes to talking to women.
They are either very self confident, or scared as death that they'll make a fool out of themselves.
In my days of growing up, you had to be relaxed and sure of yourself, and know how to talk to women, if you wanted to go out with your friends and meet people every weekend.
Remembering back to my junior high school years, I hung around the neighborhood with many more girls than boys and they were all my closest and best friends.
I felt comfortable around the and I never had to think what my next words would be or what thought coming from my mind would be.
We all cared for each other, but did I ever want to date them? Of course.
Was I able to tell them how i felt? We didn't have to back in the 70's and the same goes for today.
If you feel comfortable as a friend with any women, that friendship can turn intimate, but only with the right words.
Words that so many men don't know or are afraid to say.
It's that simple.
So, before I could gain the courage to ask, they would meet someone new and we would just remain friends as always, and even talk about their relationships.
I was never satisfied with this, but what could I do...
I was shy! Sometimes I was lucky enough to be introduced to another girlfriend of theirs, and I felt like Superman, because I was strong and at ease with everyone in the group, but put me in that same situation alone with this new acquaintance, and I would get real quiet and not know what to say.
I was speechless and sometime at a loss of simple daily words.
Getting into my high school years, things got worse.
It was the 70's.
I had long hair, the Beatles were in, and all of us would hang at my moms place to play music, practice our band routine or just hang out.
Our band practice attracted a lot of young women who liked our music and wanted to be a part of us, just to hang with us and many of them were looking for boyfriends in the band.
I was never the lucky one in the band.
Everyone would pair up and do something different and I would be stuck with someone I didn't even want to be with.
Why? Because I was afraid to speak and start a conversation.
The shy one, they would call me.
Some women like shy men, but not the majority.
When a man is in his late teens and early 20's, there are many chances to date, go dancing, join groups and be accepted into clubs, if he wanted to be cool.
You were never at home and you knew who had the most women at their house, it was always the band guys and there were always girls there, so a man that wasn't outspoken would get left behind real fast.
Around 1973 after graduating high school, I decided that I needed to do something about my shyness and inability to get or even hold an unknown woman's attention.
Don't get me wrong...
I had many women friends and they all liked my company, but when it came time to go on dates, I was never fast enough, and whoever I was interested in, would be picked up by a good friend of mine, and this hurt, but what was I to do? I finally took a class that was held at the local church.
There was a good looking man in his 30's, the James Bond type, who had started a speech class for people with a stuttering problem, who were afraid to talk to anyone.
He also taught people wanting to learn to talk in public, and to speak at events.
I joined this class and immediately, he made us feel like every woman in this hall, was just waiting to see what what we had to say.
I can remember his face today, as every morning at class, he would start calling people up to the stage to practice.
The men had to pick one girl from around fifty in class and it could not be someone you knew.
You would start to carry on a conversation and if he didn't like what he was hearing, he would stop you and everyone would get to analyze you.
It was very scary and embarrassing, but after three weeks, I was speaking to this group and I felt like I knew everyone personally, and had been speaking for years.
I was finally comfortable.
He taught us to feel comfortable in any situation and made it easy to be at ease while transitioning any normal conversation into something romantic and sexual.
Classes were not theory-focused.
These concepts were inherently natural and they were proven to work for centuries and should be intuitive to human beings.
He taught us research that went back hundreds of years and made us practice with each other until we felt like Casanova.
Even my best friend, who was terribly shy and could not even face a woman unless he was into his third drink, suddenly would go up to women on the dance floor and ask them to dance.
The class was amazing.
Some very crucial points for us to learn and remember were: Human expression is built into every one of us.
Humans are social by nature, and we thrive on the ability to meet new people and to mutually benefit from knowing each other closely and intimately.
We have to learn be more assertive in our conversations.
How to make our conversations be more interesting and stand out.
How to engage everyone we see on a daily basis, into some small conversation, whether it be at the gym, the coffee shop or even at public event.
You have to open up and try to explore other peoples thoughts and decide that you want to really talk to women, not all women, but the ones that are of interest to you.
Women want men to talk to them.
All humans were meant to be spoken to.
Women want to hear romantic stories, thoughts and words, so that we had to get closer to the ones that we sought out.
We were also taught how to use these self-expression techniques to expand the social circle in a more dramatic fashion.
All in all, we all studied, we learned, we practiced with each other, and we couldn't wait until the weekend to try our new found skills on real live women, who we would meet in our weekend excursions.
Most of us learned to actually talk to women in public, just to be nice and cheerful.
This was the start of me coming out of my shell.
I started talking to women and I was going out on dates...
lots of them.
The women loved my long hair and listening to my stories of moving around the country when I was younger.
It is interesting to note that this was before the internet was even thought of, or even computers for that matter.
There were no places to search out information.
I bought self-help books at the local mall bookstore, and i even remember sending away for a course from the classified ads in Popular Science, but that was it for resources for most anything in that time, if you wanted to better yourself.
In the end, it was the one on one coaching that made the difference in my shy life.
Today, we can get books, videos, live chat, virtual reality speaking, and anything else you want online.
You can learn to speak English or any language online.
You can chat with your therapist on the other side of the country or your sister in Ukraine, all with Skype.
In reality though, you need this personal coaching to talk to women.
Some kind of focused, formal training from reputable experts, who are socially correct and who know that you will be developing your social and dating life to your own liking, and will be able to help you avoid all the dead ends, pitfalls, and frustrations of going about meeting and talking to women on a daily basis in your life.
You need to find a program that pulls together everything I've learned when it comes to conversations.
Every skill that you need to learn and help you to express yourself and my core values.
Find and use every piece of knowledge that can help you to get started when you are too nervous just talking to a girl...
learn to figure out what makes conversations fizzle and die and what's exactly needed to make them go where you want them to go.
And after a little practice, you too too can feel comfortable talking to women.
If I can do it, anyone can.
trust me.
If these words have helped you and would like to listen to more with video, you can click the link in my Bio box to hear one of the newer experts speaking about How To Talk to Women, and get his free training video while you are there.
I wish you the best of luck in your future conversations.
They are either very self confident, or scared as death that they'll make a fool out of themselves.
In my days of growing up, you had to be relaxed and sure of yourself, and know how to talk to women, if you wanted to go out with your friends and meet people every weekend.
Remembering back to my junior high school years, I hung around the neighborhood with many more girls than boys and they were all my closest and best friends.
I felt comfortable around the and I never had to think what my next words would be or what thought coming from my mind would be.
We all cared for each other, but did I ever want to date them? Of course.
Was I able to tell them how i felt? We didn't have to back in the 70's and the same goes for today.
If you feel comfortable as a friend with any women, that friendship can turn intimate, but only with the right words.
Words that so many men don't know or are afraid to say.
It's that simple.
So, before I could gain the courage to ask, they would meet someone new and we would just remain friends as always, and even talk about their relationships.
I was never satisfied with this, but what could I do...
I was shy! Sometimes I was lucky enough to be introduced to another girlfriend of theirs, and I felt like Superman, because I was strong and at ease with everyone in the group, but put me in that same situation alone with this new acquaintance, and I would get real quiet and not know what to say.
I was speechless and sometime at a loss of simple daily words.
Getting into my high school years, things got worse.
It was the 70's.
I had long hair, the Beatles were in, and all of us would hang at my moms place to play music, practice our band routine or just hang out.
Our band practice attracted a lot of young women who liked our music and wanted to be a part of us, just to hang with us and many of them were looking for boyfriends in the band.
I was never the lucky one in the band.
Everyone would pair up and do something different and I would be stuck with someone I didn't even want to be with.
Why? Because I was afraid to speak and start a conversation.
The shy one, they would call me.
Some women like shy men, but not the majority.
When a man is in his late teens and early 20's, there are many chances to date, go dancing, join groups and be accepted into clubs, if he wanted to be cool.
You were never at home and you knew who had the most women at their house, it was always the band guys and there were always girls there, so a man that wasn't outspoken would get left behind real fast.
Around 1973 after graduating high school, I decided that I needed to do something about my shyness and inability to get or even hold an unknown woman's attention.
Don't get me wrong...
I had many women friends and they all liked my company, but when it came time to go on dates, I was never fast enough, and whoever I was interested in, would be picked up by a good friend of mine, and this hurt, but what was I to do? I finally took a class that was held at the local church.
There was a good looking man in his 30's, the James Bond type, who had started a speech class for people with a stuttering problem, who were afraid to talk to anyone.
He also taught people wanting to learn to talk in public, and to speak at events.
I joined this class and immediately, he made us feel like every woman in this hall, was just waiting to see what what we had to say.
I can remember his face today, as every morning at class, he would start calling people up to the stage to practice.
The men had to pick one girl from around fifty in class and it could not be someone you knew.
You would start to carry on a conversation and if he didn't like what he was hearing, he would stop you and everyone would get to analyze you.
It was very scary and embarrassing, but after three weeks, I was speaking to this group and I felt like I knew everyone personally, and had been speaking for years.
I was finally comfortable.
He taught us to feel comfortable in any situation and made it easy to be at ease while transitioning any normal conversation into something romantic and sexual.
Classes were not theory-focused.
These concepts were inherently natural and they were proven to work for centuries and should be intuitive to human beings.
He taught us research that went back hundreds of years and made us practice with each other until we felt like Casanova.
Even my best friend, who was terribly shy and could not even face a woman unless he was into his third drink, suddenly would go up to women on the dance floor and ask them to dance.
The class was amazing.
Some very crucial points for us to learn and remember were: Human expression is built into every one of us.
Humans are social by nature, and we thrive on the ability to meet new people and to mutually benefit from knowing each other closely and intimately.
We have to learn be more assertive in our conversations.
How to make our conversations be more interesting and stand out.
How to engage everyone we see on a daily basis, into some small conversation, whether it be at the gym, the coffee shop or even at public event.
You have to open up and try to explore other peoples thoughts and decide that you want to really talk to women, not all women, but the ones that are of interest to you.
Women want men to talk to them.
All humans were meant to be spoken to.
Women want to hear romantic stories, thoughts and words, so that we had to get closer to the ones that we sought out.
We were also taught how to use these self-expression techniques to expand the social circle in a more dramatic fashion.
All in all, we all studied, we learned, we practiced with each other, and we couldn't wait until the weekend to try our new found skills on real live women, who we would meet in our weekend excursions.
Most of us learned to actually talk to women in public, just to be nice and cheerful.
This was the start of me coming out of my shell.
I started talking to women and I was going out on dates...
lots of them.
The women loved my long hair and listening to my stories of moving around the country when I was younger.
It is interesting to note that this was before the internet was even thought of, or even computers for that matter.
There were no places to search out information.
I bought self-help books at the local mall bookstore, and i even remember sending away for a course from the classified ads in Popular Science, but that was it for resources for most anything in that time, if you wanted to better yourself.
In the end, it was the one on one coaching that made the difference in my shy life.
Today, we can get books, videos, live chat, virtual reality speaking, and anything else you want online.
You can learn to speak English or any language online.
You can chat with your therapist on the other side of the country or your sister in Ukraine, all with Skype.
In reality though, you need this personal coaching to talk to women.
Some kind of focused, formal training from reputable experts, who are socially correct and who know that you will be developing your social and dating life to your own liking, and will be able to help you avoid all the dead ends, pitfalls, and frustrations of going about meeting and talking to women on a daily basis in your life.
You need to find a program that pulls together everything I've learned when it comes to conversations.
Every skill that you need to learn and help you to express yourself and my core values.
Find and use every piece of knowledge that can help you to get started when you are too nervous just talking to a girl...
learn to figure out what makes conversations fizzle and die and what's exactly needed to make them go where you want them to go.
And after a little practice, you too too can feel comfortable talking to women.
If I can do it, anyone can.
trust me.
If these words have helped you and would like to listen to more with video, you can click the link in my Bio box to hear one of the newer experts speaking about How To Talk to Women, and get his free training video while you are there.
I wish you the best of luck in your future conversations.
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