Are you a possessive and jealous person in your love life? You are not alone but it is a really big problem if you are.
Jealousy and possessiveness is a sure fire way to destroy any relationship.
The message you are giving to your partner is that you do not trust them and this is a really bad thing to say to someone.
Take this very simple test: It's Christmas and your partner is going out on their office party.
It's going to finish really late and they will be drinking with people they work with.
What is your reaction to this? a) You tell your partner that you will pick them up and make sure that they either come home or get home safely, so you stay in all night, stay sober and go and pick them up? b) Tell them to have a great time and say that you'll catch up on the gossip later? c) Arrange to meet up with your friends for a night out and enjoy yourself? Now, in your mind you are hoping that you would do 'b' or 'c' and you probably even know that either of these is the right way to react, but if you are over possessive then you will have most certainly chosen 'a'.
This is because you most definitely do not trust this situation at all! You need to try and understand what is causing you to react like this.
Possessiveness is nearly always the result of past experience and this could go way back to very early childhood all the way up to present day but something down the line has made you insecure.
What you need to do is take a moment to reflect on your life.
Try and take yourself back to your earliest memories of relationships and look for a time when something upset you.
It may even be the first ever love or crush that you had on someone.
It may appear to be something really small but it will be there, lurking in your mind and causing these insecurities to surface every time you are in a relationship and you need to resolve it as soon as you can.
Jealousy and possessiveness is a sure fire way to destroy any relationship.
The message you are giving to your partner is that you do not trust them and this is a really bad thing to say to someone.
Take this very simple test: It's Christmas and your partner is going out on their office party.
It's going to finish really late and they will be drinking with people they work with.
What is your reaction to this? a) You tell your partner that you will pick them up and make sure that they either come home or get home safely, so you stay in all night, stay sober and go and pick them up? b) Tell them to have a great time and say that you'll catch up on the gossip later? c) Arrange to meet up with your friends for a night out and enjoy yourself? Now, in your mind you are hoping that you would do 'b' or 'c' and you probably even know that either of these is the right way to react, but if you are over possessive then you will have most certainly chosen 'a'.
This is because you most definitely do not trust this situation at all! You need to try and understand what is causing you to react like this.
Possessiveness is nearly always the result of past experience and this could go way back to very early childhood all the way up to present day but something down the line has made you insecure.
What you need to do is take a moment to reflect on your life.
Try and take yourself back to your earliest memories of relationships and look for a time when something upset you.
It may even be the first ever love or crush that you had on someone.
It may appear to be something really small but it will be there, lurking in your mind and causing these insecurities to surface every time you are in a relationship and you need to resolve it as soon as you can.
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