God is love, the true Healer.
I don't think God wanted us to continue to accept and live with someone hurting us with bruises, calling us out of our name and threats.
Calling us names, threats and put downs are to make us feel bad about ourselves.
Being controlling and telling you who you can be friends with or what to wear.
Having sex when you do want it.
If you are going to stay, keep important papers and documents plus pictures of your injuries with clothes in a safe place.
So when you are ready to leave everything is ready to go.
This is intimate domestic violence.
When I was with my abusive ex-husband, he always said, "If I wouldn't have done this or said that, then I wouldn't hit you.
If I loved him or a real Christian, I wouldn't leave him.
" He was always blaming me, never taking responsibility for us own actions.
Remember it is never your fault, we are in control of our own actions.
Yes, I realize we will go through things in a relationship like disappointments, pain, sorrow, loss along with joy, peace, love and happiness.
Because that is life, but we can control suffering at the hands of our abusers.
Once you realize, your partner is abusing you.
There is help and we can take back our lives-take responsibility to change our life for our children and ourself.
Love Doesn't have to Hurt, read 1 Corinthians 13:4,5,6,7,13:4 Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails.
13 And now these remain: faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these is love.
Our abuser beat and attacks us for control and that is the time when they are in the most control.
Please know that love is not insecure, neglect, angry and mean.
We though our abusers loved us and we truly loved them and somehow wanted to change them.
But the truth is, they have to change themselves, just like you have to change you.
We confused those feeling for love, now we know it was fear, lack of love, hurt.
Because Love Doesn't have to Hurt.
Tell a person you trust, call 911, Partnership Against Domestic Violence or Families First both have shelters and crisis lines.
Be blessed, Be kind and share with others Denise
I don't think God wanted us to continue to accept and live with someone hurting us with bruises, calling us out of our name and threats.
Calling us names, threats and put downs are to make us feel bad about ourselves.
Being controlling and telling you who you can be friends with or what to wear.
Having sex when you do want it.
If you are going to stay, keep important papers and documents plus pictures of your injuries with clothes in a safe place.
So when you are ready to leave everything is ready to go.
This is intimate domestic violence.
When I was with my abusive ex-husband, he always said, "If I wouldn't have done this or said that, then I wouldn't hit you.
If I loved him or a real Christian, I wouldn't leave him.
" He was always blaming me, never taking responsibility for us own actions.
Remember it is never your fault, we are in control of our own actions.
Yes, I realize we will go through things in a relationship like disappointments, pain, sorrow, loss along with joy, peace, love and happiness.
Because that is life, but we can control suffering at the hands of our abusers.
Once you realize, your partner is abusing you.
There is help and we can take back our lives-take responsibility to change our life for our children and ourself.
Love Doesn't have to Hurt, read 1 Corinthians 13:4,5,6,7,13:4 Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails.
13 And now these remain: faith, hope and love.
But the greatest of these is love.
Our abuser beat and attacks us for control and that is the time when they are in the most control.
Please know that love is not insecure, neglect, angry and mean.
We though our abusers loved us and we truly loved them and somehow wanted to change them.
But the truth is, they have to change themselves, just like you have to change you.
We confused those feeling for love, now we know it was fear, lack of love, hurt.
Because Love Doesn't have to Hurt.
Tell a person you trust, call 911, Partnership Against Domestic Violence or Families First both have shelters and crisis lines.
Be blessed, Be kind and share with others Denise
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