"To love and to hold and for better or worse", you vowed to love each other. As bad luck would have it, the 'worse' has come and now you find your marriage dangling in the wind. Mending a marriage that's broken or nearly coming apart' is no simple task. Men in this position know how painful a situation like this can be. It hits hard when a man faces times alone, realizing the possibility of going on in life without the person he loves the most. Don't be desperate. It may require a lot of work, but winning your wife back is quite possible.

So, where do you go from here? You try to get her back, of course. First, ask yourself, "What made her fall in love with me in the beginning?" Think back to those early days. What was it about you that really made her fall in love? Try to be that same person again. Yes, people do change, so don't try to change who you inherently are but what were the qualities about you and your character that really made her attracted to you. Those are the focus points that you want to highlight again. Winning her heart the second time may require a lot of hard work and patience, but if you really care, isn't she worth it? This is where you have to dig deep into yourself and want to do it. This is now your goal. Be smart, stalking her or calling her every two minutes will not do you any good. That is just another reason why woman leave men.

Okay, so you want to know how to get your wife back? Here are a few things to start with. When was the last time you told her how beautiful she is and always was? Don't answer that. Just tell her. Make sure you tell her in a deep sincere way so she can feel how you feel. From here on, it's about focusing on her to rebuild your mutual love and trust and attain that loving relationship once again.

The only thing about yourself to focus is not the mistakes or lack of commitment but how you can learn from them. During the course of our lifetime things change, it's only inevitable. What we need to do is manipulate that change for the better. These are the things you talk to her about. Tell her how you are willing to commit to turning old, not so desirable traits into positive relationship building blocks. This is also not the time to beg for forgiveness. Woman will be compassionate to a man with the ability to admit a wrongdoing and act of confession then a beggar for forgiveness. Be genuine in your approach when you mean to reconcile. Be patient and persistent in your attempts. If, at first, she turns away your thoughts to reconnect, don't be shocked. Don't let it get to you this is just the first attempt. This is a lot on her plate to digest, so she will need some time.

You need to understand your wife's thinking. Is she motivated to get back into a relationship with you? What are her motivations to do so from her perspective? What made her mad that caused the conflict between you? Think about the things that started the whole separation and how she saw them then and now. If you can figure these out then you will have a strong understanding of how she feels and what made her leave. Then think of ways of how you could have and will make decisions to avoid those situations again.

To win your wife back successfully takes commitment and a lot of willpower to work. Self improvement and positive approaches will take time and devotion to develop your relationship skills. These techniques will greatly improve how to get your wife back, not sulking and feeling bitter. Strive to be the best you can be, and once you're together again, don't make the same mistakes again.