One of the most frequent questions that women ask relationship experts is "why won't he marry me?" Most of us know a woman that has been dating a man for ages as she continues to drop hints that she'd like to get married.
The thing that is most puzzling about these women, is that they are often the type that wouldn't put up with being given the runaround in any other situation.
These women make smart decisions in other aspects of their lives, yet they stay in a situation where they seem to be the only ones that are unaware that these men will never marry them.
So why are these men so opposed to tying the knot? Although there are always specific details that vary among the stories of these couples, there are really only 2 main reasons why these men will not marry these women: 1) The man just does not want to get married 2) The man doesn't want to marry that particular woman.
I know this seems like an over simplification, but I think that delving into all the details of why a man is not marrying her, is what often causes women to get caught up in trying to turn these relationships into marriages.
Men Who Just Don't Want To Get Married- There are some men who just have no intention of getting married.
It's easy to get caught up in the reasons why he doesn't want to get married and to view them as barriers that can be overcome.
If he has sworn off marriage because he went through an ugly divorce you may be tempted to prove that with you it can be different.
If he thinks he is not the type of person who can be faithful, you may feel tempted to see the challenge as making sure that you prove to him that you can be exciting and desirable enough to make him never want to look at another woman again.
The problem is that not wanting to get married is about him, not about you.
I've known women who date men who have told them for years that they never want to get married, yet they seem to think that if they wait it out he'll change his mind.
If a man tells you that he has no intention of getting married and backs that up by dating you for years without marrying, then take him at his word.
He won't be marrying you now matter how hard you try to change this.
Men Who Don't Want to Marry a Particular Woman- This is a difficult scenario for a woman to accept.
When a woman who has waited years for a proposal that never came watches that same man walk down the aisle with another woman, it's hard not to have doubts about what was wrong with you and why he feels that this other women is so right for him.
There are many reasons why a man may not want to marry a particular woman, and it doesn't mean that anything was "wrong" with the first woman or that he didn't love her enough to marry her.
It just means that the men weren't sure that they were compatible enough for marriage.
For example, I've known women who had careers that made their man think that work would keep them from being the kind of wife that they envisioned.
On the flip side, I also knew a woman whose boyfriend felt that he could never be the dependable husband that she dreamed of having because he was a freelancer and never had a job with a steady paycheck.
At the time, these women were heartbroken to see the men they had waited for walk down the aisle with someone else.
It wasn't until they met men that were compatible enough to marry that they realized that it truly wasn't a strike against them that these other men had not wanted to marry them.
So there you have it, the two main reasons behind all the little reasons of why he won't marry you.
No matter which reason it is, the important thing is to move on from a relationship if you've reached the point where you want to marry him and he has shown that he doesn't want to marry you.
It's hard to walk away from a relationship when you love someone and thought that they were "the one," but ultimately it is much better than getting married to the wrong person.
The thing that is most puzzling about these women, is that they are often the type that wouldn't put up with being given the runaround in any other situation.
These women make smart decisions in other aspects of their lives, yet they stay in a situation where they seem to be the only ones that are unaware that these men will never marry them.
So why are these men so opposed to tying the knot? Although there are always specific details that vary among the stories of these couples, there are really only 2 main reasons why these men will not marry these women: 1) The man just does not want to get married 2) The man doesn't want to marry that particular woman.
I know this seems like an over simplification, but I think that delving into all the details of why a man is not marrying her, is what often causes women to get caught up in trying to turn these relationships into marriages.
Men Who Just Don't Want To Get Married- There are some men who just have no intention of getting married.
It's easy to get caught up in the reasons why he doesn't want to get married and to view them as barriers that can be overcome.
If he has sworn off marriage because he went through an ugly divorce you may be tempted to prove that with you it can be different.
If he thinks he is not the type of person who can be faithful, you may feel tempted to see the challenge as making sure that you prove to him that you can be exciting and desirable enough to make him never want to look at another woman again.
The problem is that not wanting to get married is about him, not about you.
I've known women who date men who have told them for years that they never want to get married, yet they seem to think that if they wait it out he'll change his mind.
If a man tells you that he has no intention of getting married and backs that up by dating you for years without marrying, then take him at his word.
He won't be marrying you now matter how hard you try to change this.
Men Who Don't Want to Marry a Particular Woman- This is a difficult scenario for a woman to accept.
When a woman who has waited years for a proposal that never came watches that same man walk down the aisle with another woman, it's hard not to have doubts about what was wrong with you and why he feels that this other women is so right for him.
There are many reasons why a man may not want to marry a particular woman, and it doesn't mean that anything was "wrong" with the first woman or that he didn't love her enough to marry her.
It just means that the men weren't sure that they were compatible enough for marriage.
For example, I've known women who had careers that made their man think that work would keep them from being the kind of wife that they envisioned.
On the flip side, I also knew a woman whose boyfriend felt that he could never be the dependable husband that she dreamed of having because he was a freelancer and never had a job with a steady paycheck.
At the time, these women were heartbroken to see the men they had waited for walk down the aisle with someone else.
It wasn't until they met men that were compatible enough to marry that they realized that it truly wasn't a strike against them that these other men had not wanted to marry them.
So there you have it, the two main reasons behind all the little reasons of why he won't marry you.
No matter which reason it is, the important thing is to move on from a relationship if you've reached the point where you want to marry him and he has shown that he doesn't want to marry you.
It's hard to walk away from a relationship when you love someone and thought that they were "the one," but ultimately it is much better than getting married to the wrong person.
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