You and your boyfriend have broken up and now you want to get back together.
I'm sure life is not the same without him.
That's how I felt.
If you want to get your boyfriend back then you may need to change the way you go about trying to get him back.
You can get help for your relationship by seeking out the advice of relationship experts.
The following is a little something I learned.
I not only got help for my relationship...
I got my boyfriend back too.
First you have to understand that many times men get close to marriage with a woman but as things progress the man feels smothered or that things are moving too fast.
Bottom line - they get scared.
We women are at fault too we push too much and the pressure makes men want to get away from the relationship for awhile.
Men don't like to feel like they have lost control.
So in order for them to feel like they do have some control they will walk away from a relationship even if that relationship might have been on the brink of marriage.
If you are in this situation then your goal is to do what is smart to get your relationship back on track and not do what your emotions tell you to do.
If you really want help for your relationship you are going to have to be secretive and sensitive about it.
You will have to back off a little bit and don't force him into any kind of commitment right now.
You are going to have to make him feel like he is making the decision to get back together with you.
He needs to feel like he is choosing this direction on his own.
So if you and your boyfriend are still on speaking terms and he wants to talk...
just listen for now.
Don't talk about the relationship and how much you want to get back together.
As hard as this might seem it will work if you discipline yourself.
Be available to him but not too available.
For example, if he calls you don't always be there to jump and answer the phone.
Let your voicemail take his message and then take your sweet time calling him back.
When you finally speak with him don't act all excited to be hearing from him.
And, if he wants to make plans to take you out - turn him down at first! These delay tactics will work in the long run.
What is happening is that you are making him have to work to get you back.
Even though it is you who wants the relationship back...
you have to make him think it is him.
The only way to do that is to make yourself unavailable to some extent.
While you are playing this game of pursuit start taking better care of yourself.
Make yourself the prize he wants to catch.
It is very true in relationships that the harder a person is to catch the more desirable he or she is to the person trying to catch them.
If your boyfriend even suspects that you might be easy to get back he will not even try.