If you are feeling hopeless and helpless after a breakup, you are certainly not alone.
No matter how rough your relationship may be, a breakup are bound to be emotional because we are conditioned to yearn for what we cannot have.
The reason you have this sudden swell of emotion about your ex is because the relationship has come to and end and you suddenly find yourself out of a comfort zone.
Suddenly, you are not supposed to dial that oh-so-familiar number if you need some cuddling, and weekends are not automatically spent with this person whom you've come to get on so well with.
Overnight, the tiniest things could make you think of this person who have occupied your life - the couple T-shirt, that cup, the pendant you are wearing on your neck...
the list goes on and on.
A big part chunk of your life have been ripped off and you are feeling blank and lost.
Right now, you are hating this phase and you desperately want to get out of it - even if it means reaching out to your ex at all cost.
Although this is a perfectly natural instinct, it is the single worst thing you can do to drive your ex away.
Don't believe it? Think about this.
What you are going through is going to affect your ex to a certain extent, even if your ex dumped you in the first place.
Your ex will go through the same "emptiness" right after the breakup, and is missing you as the two of you will no longer share your life together anymore.
This much is predictable.
Now, what you don't want to do is to go and spoil it all by telling your ex "I am so available" or "I need to be with you so badly".
Will your ex still miss you all the same? Guess not.
The reason? What we cannot have will automatically seemed more precious to us in our mind.
This is the rule, and you must plan your strategy around this rule if you want to get your ex back.
The obvious things to avoid following this rule is never show any interest in getting back together, not to mention pulling any crazy stunts such as begging, crying and threatening your ex into coming back.
What's less obvious is that you have to think outside the box in handling your own emotions during this period of time.
We know you just can't help running back to your ex when the pain gets bad, which is why you should tackle this at its root.
Earlier on, we talked about how yearning for what we cannot have affect our emotions about breakups.
Since you are already aware that part of why you feel what you feel is due to this, you can choose to react in a different manner.
Get over this feeling where you are never going to be able to kiss your ex or share your lives together again.
Get over the heartache and the mushiness.
When you peel away the layers of emotions associated with the breakup, you can now see clearly where this is heading and what you can do if you truly want your ex back.
This is how you can plan your actions to get your ex back, while your ex is still in this post breakup stage of missing you.
The earlier you start this, the better your chance at getting your ex back.
No matter how rough your relationship may be, a breakup are bound to be emotional because we are conditioned to yearn for what we cannot have.
The reason you have this sudden swell of emotion about your ex is because the relationship has come to and end and you suddenly find yourself out of a comfort zone.
Suddenly, you are not supposed to dial that oh-so-familiar number if you need some cuddling, and weekends are not automatically spent with this person whom you've come to get on so well with.
Overnight, the tiniest things could make you think of this person who have occupied your life - the couple T-shirt, that cup, the pendant you are wearing on your neck...
the list goes on and on.
A big part chunk of your life have been ripped off and you are feeling blank and lost.
Right now, you are hating this phase and you desperately want to get out of it - even if it means reaching out to your ex at all cost.
Although this is a perfectly natural instinct, it is the single worst thing you can do to drive your ex away.
Don't believe it? Think about this.
What you are going through is going to affect your ex to a certain extent, even if your ex dumped you in the first place.
Your ex will go through the same "emptiness" right after the breakup, and is missing you as the two of you will no longer share your life together anymore.
This much is predictable.
Now, what you don't want to do is to go and spoil it all by telling your ex "I am so available" or "I need to be with you so badly".
Will your ex still miss you all the same? Guess not.
The reason? What we cannot have will automatically seemed more precious to us in our mind.
This is the rule, and you must plan your strategy around this rule if you want to get your ex back.
The obvious things to avoid following this rule is never show any interest in getting back together, not to mention pulling any crazy stunts such as begging, crying and threatening your ex into coming back.
What's less obvious is that you have to think outside the box in handling your own emotions during this period of time.
We know you just can't help running back to your ex when the pain gets bad, which is why you should tackle this at its root.
Earlier on, we talked about how yearning for what we cannot have affect our emotions about breakups.
Since you are already aware that part of why you feel what you feel is due to this, you can choose to react in a different manner.
Get over this feeling where you are never going to be able to kiss your ex or share your lives together again.
Get over the heartache and the mushiness.
When you peel away the layers of emotions associated with the breakup, you can now see clearly where this is heading and what you can do if you truly want your ex back.
This is how you can plan your actions to get your ex back, while your ex is still in this post breakup stage of missing you.
The earlier you start this, the better your chance at getting your ex back.
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