1.
Many people who are stuck in "perfect" are actually fearful of making mistakes or failing.
So many of us want our kids to be "perfectly happy".
However, if we want our kids to be perfectly happy then we must teach them to be comfortable when making mistakes and able to rise to challenges when they occur.
This comes with practice, patience, do-overs, teaching moments and the ability to work through mistakes when they occur.
Recognizing and celebrating successes when they are met is just as important too! If you dream of your girl being, confident, finding her voice, honest, open minded, empathetic, helpful, caring, understanding, and the like, then being perfect is not going to get her there.
She must experience some "mistakes," "imperfections," or "bumps in the road" in order to practice and learn all of these qualities we wish her to possess.
2.
When we are perfectly imperfect we get the chance to "DO-OVER" and do-over's allow us to start fresh again.
Say the wrong thing to your daughter; to harsh, too condescending or too hurtful? Recognize it and let her know that you were out of line.
Maybe start by saying, "I made a mistake when I said this...
" The do-over gives you a chance to apologize and let her know how you plan to respond differently next time.
Now how many unforgettable life lessons are in that one? Use dinner time to model comfort with mistakes and not being perfect.
Go around the table and have each family member share a time they made a mistake that week and what they learned from it.
This is not a time to criticize the mistake but rather become more aware of how we can grow from and be even more successful because we made these mistakes.
3.
Look back and think of what you learned from your parent's "imperfections.
" For some of us there might be too many to recount or too many painful ones to think about! But perhaps you came from a large family with many siblings and the lack of individual attention led you to stand up for yourself.
Perhaps your family had a lot of hardship but cherished those peaceful moments and now as an adult, you are able to reflect and cherish those little things too.
What a gift to give yourself and your girl.
4.
Let go of the overwhelming tendency to compare yourself with others.
In fact, throw out the word "perfect" AND "as good as.
" Decide to celebrate who you are and what you contribute to the people and the world around you and then feel the sense of freedom that comes along with doing so.
When you do this, your girl might be right behind you...
following your lead.
5.
Content and fulfilled people are not the ones who are the smartest, the fastest or the most perfect but rather the ones who can bounce back from a setback or look at a challenge from a different or new perspective.
Many people who are stuck in "perfect" are actually fearful of making mistakes or failing.
So many of us want our kids to be "perfectly happy".
However, if we want our kids to be perfectly happy then we must teach them to be comfortable when making mistakes and able to rise to challenges when they occur.
This comes with practice, patience, do-overs, teaching moments and the ability to work through mistakes when they occur.
Recognizing and celebrating successes when they are met is just as important too! If you dream of your girl being, confident, finding her voice, honest, open minded, empathetic, helpful, caring, understanding, and the like, then being perfect is not going to get her there.
She must experience some "mistakes," "imperfections," or "bumps in the road" in order to practice and learn all of these qualities we wish her to possess.
2.
When we are perfectly imperfect we get the chance to "DO-OVER" and do-over's allow us to start fresh again.
Say the wrong thing to your daughter; to harsh, too condescending or too hurtful? Recognize it and let her know that you were out of line.
Maybe start by saying, "I made a mistake when I said this...
" The do-over gives you a chance to apologize and let her know how you plan to respond differently next time.
Now how many unforgettable life lessons are in that one? Use dinner time to model comfort with mistakes and not being perfect.
Go around the table and have each family member share a time they made a mistake that week and what they learned from it.
This is not a time to criticize the mistake but rather become more aware of how we can grow from and be even more successful because we made these mistakes.
3.
Look back and think of what you learned from your parent's "imperfections.
" For some of us there might be too many to recount or too many painful ones to think about! But perhaps you came from a large family with many siblings and the lack of individual attention led you to stand up for yourself.
Perhaps your family had a lot of hardship but cherished those peaceful moments and now as an adult, you are able to reflect and cherish those little things too.
What a gift to give yourself and your girl.
4.
Let go of the overwhelming tendency to compare yourself with others.
In fact, throw out the word "perfect" AND "as good as.
" Decide to celebrate who you are and what you contribute to the people and the world around you and then feel the sense of freedom that comes along with doing so.
When you do this, your girl might be right behind you...
following your lead.
5.
Content and fulfilled people are not the ones who are the smartest, the fastest or the most perfect but rather the ones who can bounce back from a setback or look at a challenge from a different or new perspective.
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