"I need to save my marriage now before it ends" is the desperate cry for help, from thousands of people in seemingly impossible marriage situations all over the world.
It can be a time filled with desperation, and emotional wreckage.
You don't know where to turn or who to speak to, you probably can' t think straight, let alone think clearly.
If you can identify with this and you are in this situation, then it is really important that you clear your mind of all emotion, take a deep breath and focus on the need to save your marriage before it' s too late! Now I know that sounded a bit harsh, but let me tell you that I can empathize with you.
I have been in that very same situation when my marriage was crumbling around my ears.
I couldn't think straight and embarked upon a series of strategies that sent my partner even further away from me.
I gave in to my partner's wishes and demands, tried to get my partner to understand where they went wrong and even resorted to begging my partner for more chances.
I was desperately looking for answers and it wasn't until I realised that I needed to stop thinking with my emotions and start to think rationally about what I could do to mend my broken marriage quickly, that our relationship started to turn the corner and head in the right direction.
If you start acting in a positive manner towards the situation then your partner will feel that you are acting differently towards them and react positively towards you.
Positive action evokes a positive reaction.