I have always been impressed with parents who have well-behaved children without having to be overly strict or raising their voices.
This never came easy to me until I learned the magical secret that I am about to tell you now.
This parenting trick is called, "Count to 3" and it's deceptively simple.
However, there are a few things you should know to get it to work well.
Let's get started.
Whenever your child is doing something that you want them to stop doing, you need to change your tone of voice to something that sounds serious.
You need to communicate that you mean business now.
Then ask directly for your child to stop doing what they are doing.
Inevitably, your child will not stop doing that undesired activity.
What you do next is state the child's name and then count slowly from 1 to 3.
Do this clearly and maybe even slightly louder than before.
No need to raise your voice or shout, just raise the volume up slightly.
Let's use an example.
Your daughter Jenny is banging her toy on the kitchen table and it's starting to drive you crazy! You say, "Jenny, stop banging the table.
" Jenny stops momentarily, looks up at you and then continues banging away, with even greater pleasure than before.
You raise your voice slightly and say "Jenny...
One...
(pause)...
Two...
(pause)...
Three.
" If Jenny has stopped before you reach the count of "Three," be sure to praise her right away.
If, however, she continues even after you have finished counting, you need to take immediate action and punish her in some way.
Jenny needs to see very clearly that the "counting to three" ritual is for when you mean business.
She needs to be certain that not listening to you when you count to three will definitely result in a punishment.
If you repeat this simple practice five to ten times, always immediately invoking some form of mild punishment, such as having a short time out, you will find that pretty soon your child will almost always obey you.
The great part about this is that you will soon notice that just counting to one, or even just stating your child's name in that tone of voice will be enough.
One last key to this trick is that you should start using it when your child is disobeying in some small way.
Then gradually try it when he or she is doing something more serious, always stepping up the severity of punishment (e.
g.
a longer timeout).
Your child will soon see that the bigger the crime, the bigger the punishment and whenever you've resorted to counting, he or she has reached last chance.
Try the counting trick and you'll soon wonder how you ever lived without it!
This never came easy to me until I learned the magical secret that I am about to tell you now.
This parenting trick is called, "Count to 3" and it's deceptively simple.
However, there are a few things you should know to get it to work well.
Let's get started.
Whenever your child is doing something that you want them to stop doing, you need to change your tone of voice to something that sounds serious.
You need to communicate that you mean business now.
Then ask directly for your child to stop doing what they are doing.
Inevitably, your child will not stop doing that undesired activity.
What you do next is state the child's name and then count slowly from 1 to 3.
Do this clearly and maybe even slightly louder than before.
No need to raise your voice or shout, just raise the volume up slightly.
Let's use an example.
Your daughter Jenny is banging her toy on the kitchen table and it's starting to drive you crazy! You say, "Jenny, stop banging the table.
" Jenny stops momentarily, looks up at you and then continues banging away, with even greater pleasure than before.
You raise your voice slightly and say "Jenny...
One...
(pause)...
Two...
(pause)...
Three.
" If Jenny has stopped before you reach the count of "Three," be sure to praise her right away.
If, however, she continues even after you have finished counting, you need to take immediate action and punish her in some way.
Jenny needs to see very clearly that the "counting to three" ritual is for when you mean business.
She needs to be certain that not listening to you when you count to three will definitely result in a punishment.
If you repeat this simple practice five to ten times, always immediately invoking some form of mild punishment, such as having a short time out, you will find that pretty soon your child will almost always obey you.
The great part about this is that you will soon notice that just counting to one, or even just stating your child's name in that tone of voice will be enough.
One last key to this trick is that you should start using it when your child is disobeying in some small way.
Then gradually try it when he or she is doing something more serious, always stepping up the severity of punishment (e.
g.
a longer timeout).
Your child will soon see that the bigger the crime, the bigger the punishment and whenever you've resorted to counting, he or she has reached last chance.
Try the counting trick and you'll soon wonder how you ever lived without it!
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