Tackling Temper Tantrums in Toddlers
Sometimes your toddler throws horrible temper tantrum, you just wished you can bury your head like an ostrich! It is awfully embarrassing for a parent.
Outburst crying, stamping, kicking or throwing herself down are common signs of temper tantrum.
Well, it is not anything new because we have all seen it.
It happens at home, school or in public, these little fellow does not seem to care where or when they throw tantrums.
I would definitely have to say that parents or caregivers play the big role in parenting them.
Some tantrums can be avoided, others can be solved.
The responsibilities lie in us.
Understand Why Toddlers Throw Tantrum: Here are just a few common reasons.
1.
Expressing themselves They are impulsive.
They simply express themselves without reservation because they have no judgment about consequences.
Toddlers would not be shy or shameful about their explosive tantrums because they have yet to learn about how others might think about them.
2.
Self-centeredness Yes.
The whole world belongs to them and must go their way.
Everything a toddler view will be from his or her own perspective and advantage.
Otherwise..
..
(they throw the big T again!) 3.
Tiredness, hunger or overstimulation Although they begin to master a few words, they may not know how to put them into good use yet.
Should they be tired after some outdoor activity, they would not have the ability to request to go home and rest.
So, they simply throw temper tantrum again.
4.
Jealousy It is extremely common for toddlers to have a younger sibling that her mummy care for.
When she felt belittled, she would seek attention and express it incorrectly and by making a big fuss.
5.
Battling for independence Our little friend are learning everyday and gradually wants to take control.
Although we felt as much that we should decide about where to go, what to do, what to eat and what to wear, little toddler would like to have a mind on her own.
Tips to Tackle Toddlers Tantrum They can be difficult but manageable.
You know your child's character so use preventive steps to avoid tantrums instead.
1.
Expressive themselves Help your child to use words or new words to express themselves instead of negative behavior.
Being a caregiver, it is easy for you to predict what she wants and introduce new words to help her express herself.
Focus on the issue and not the child.
Distracting them helps a lot too.
For example if both of you are shopping and she spotted the soft toy which you cannot afford, distract her with someone else's pretty pink dress while walking away.
Talk for a minute and she will simply forget about the soft toy.
2.
Self-centeredness This time, you teach them concepts like taking turns, sharing and caring.
Make them aware that others interest should be considered too.
Use simple 2-3 words to explain like 'please wait' and 'take turn'.
Be prepared to explain few times before she gets the message.
3.
Tired, hunger or over-stimulation The question comes back to you again as a caregiver.
When you go for an outing, always keep up with time and be aware of when toddler will go hungry.
Besides, they do not know the limit of when they will get tired or over-stimulated but you do.
Time your outing.
When it is time to go - it is time to go.
4.
Jealousy Ensure your child that you love her just as much and will spend time with her after you attend to crying baby.
As a caregiver - prioritize and try not to give unnecessary attention to the younger one.
Checking baby's diaper every minute will simply cause jealousy.
Spend some time with little toddler too! 5.
Battling for independence Yes, if she sees that pretty Dora swim suit, she may insist to wear even you're shopping! Avoid the incident altogether by hiding it away.
For food, she may struggle wanting to self feed but you will be worried about the spillage.
In that case, give her another set of bowl and spoon with little food in it while you can feed her from the actual bowl.
So next time if your toddler throws tantrum, think about what you should do to ease the situation.
After all - kids will be kids!
Outburst crying, stamping, kicking or throwing herself down are common signs of temper tantrum.
Well, it is not anything new because we have all seen it.
It happens at home, school or in public, these little fellow does not seem to care where or when they throw tantrums.
I would definitely have to say that parents or caregivers play the big role in parenting them.
Some tantrums can be avoided, others can be solved.
The responsibilities lie in us.
Understand Why Toddlers Throw Tantrum: Here are just a few common reasons.
1.
Expressing themselves They are impulsive.
They simply express themselves without reservation because they have no judgment about consequences.
Toddlers would not be shy or shameful about their explosive tantrums because they have yet to learn about how others might think about them.
2.
Self-centeredness Yes.
The whole world belongs to them and must go their way.
Everything a toddler view will be from his or her own perspective and advantage.
Otherwise..
..
(they throw the big T again!) 3.
Tiredness, hunger or overstimulation Although they begin to master a few words, they may not know how to put them into good use yet.
Should they be tired after some outdoor activity, they would not have the ability to request to go home and rest.
So, they simply throw temper tantrum again.
4.
Jealousy It is extremely common for toddlers to have a younger sibling that her mummy care for.
When she felt belittled, she would seek attention and express it incorrectly and by making a big fuss.
5.
Battling for independence Our little friend are learning everyday and gradually wants to take control.
Although we felt as much that we should decide about where to go, what to do, what to eat and what to wear, little toddler would like to have a mind on her own.
Tips to Tackle Toddlers Tantrum They can be difficult but manageable.
You know your child's character so use preventive steps to avoid tantrums instead.
1.
Expressive themselves Help your child to use words or new words to express themselves instead of negative behavior.
Being a caregiver, it is easy for you to predict what she wants and introduce new words to help her express herself.
Focus on the issue and not the child.
Distracting them helps a lot too.
For example if both of you are shopping and she spotted the soft toy which you cannot afford, distract her with someone else's pretty pink dress while walking away.
Talk for a minute and she will simply forget about the soft toy.
2.
Self-centeredness This time, you teach them concepts like taking turns, sharing and caring.
Make them aware that others interest should be considered too.
Use simple 2-3 words to explain like 'please wait' and 'take turn'.
Be prepared to explain few times before she gets the message.
3.
Tired, hunger or over-stimulation The question comes back to you again as a caregiver.
When you go for an outing, always keep up with time and be aware of when toddler will go hungry.
Besides, they do not know the limit of when they will get tired or over-stimulated but you do.
Time your outing.
When it is time to go - it is time to go.
4.
Jealousy Ensure your child that you love her just as much and will spend time with her after you attend to crying baby.
As a caregiver - prioritize and try not to give unnecessary attention to the younger one.
Checking baby's diaper every minute will simply cause jealousy.
Spend some time with little toddler too! 5.
Battling for independence Yes, if she sees that pretty Dora swim suit, she may insist to wear even you're shopping! Avoid the incident altogether by hiding it away.
For food, she may struggle wanting to self feed but you will be worried about the spillage.
In that case, give her another set of bowl and spoon with little food in it while you can feed her from the actual bowl.
So next time if your toddler throws tantrum, think about what you should do to ease the situation.
After all - kids will be kids!
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