Relationships are not easy to keep healthy and successful without effort and commitment.
With overall emotional health and some reasonable communication skills, along with a desire to work things out, two people can create a relationship that is fulfilling, loving, and successful.
However, there are instances where a relationship is so toxic or destructive to one or both of the partners, that the effort of a partner does not seem to overcome the challenge.
If you are in a destructive and unbalanced relationship dynamic, the cost of staying in the relationship may be higher than the loss of leaving.
Here are 3 signs that it might be time to end a relationship: 1.
There is serial infidelity in the relationship.
This is different than an affair that occurs as a result of neglect or dissatisfaction with the love or sex availability in the relationship - if both partners desire to recommit and stay faithful, and increase communication and accountability, it is possible for a relationship to become even stronger in the aftermath.
Repeated affairs are different when they take on a compulsive nature, or involve poor partner selection.
This can be a sign of a deeper underlying problem.
In any case, if the affairs are ongoing, there is little foundation upon which to build a relationship.
The constant betrayal and pain is damaging.
So is the physical risk you take in staying with an unfaithful person.
2.
There is addiction to drugs and alcohol, and your partner refuses help.
This can be a difficult situation, as it is tempting to rescue or get caught up in trying to minimize the various crises that occur as a result of your partner's using.
It is challenging to detach, and in any case the practical impact can be significant.
If your partner gets DUI's or injures someone while using, you may be affected by the legal or financial consequences.
3.
Your partner is abusive in any way toward you.
This might be physical or emotional, and both are damaging.
If you are being physically abused please contact a domestic violence shelter or counselor that specializes in this issue for help in constructing a safe plan for leaving.
One of the most dangerous junctures in a physically abusive relationship is at the time of leaving and professional help is a must.
Emotional abuse may not seem as immediately dangerous, but it does a great deal of psychological damage.
Being put down and controlled, made to feel inferior, incompetent, or crazy lowers self esteem and can lead to depression.
With overall emotional health and some reasonable communication skills, along with a desire to work things out, two people can create a relationship that is fulfilling, loving, and successful.
However, there are instances where a relationship is so toxic or destructive to one or both of the partners, that the effort of a partner does not seem to overcome the challenge.
If you are in a destructive and unbalanced relationship dynamic, the cost of staying in the relationship may be higher than the loss of leaving.
Here are 3 signs that it might be time to end a relationship: 1.
There is serial infidelity in the relationship.
This is different than an affair that occurs as a result of neglect or dissatisfaction with the love or sex availability in the relationship - if both partners desire to recommit and stay faithful, and increase communication and accountability, it is possible for a relationship to become even stronger in the aftermath.
Repeated affairs are different when they take on a compulsive nature, or involve poor partner selection.
This can be a sign of a deeper underlying problem.
In any case, if the affairs are ongoing, there is little foundation upon which to build a relationship.
The constant betrayal and pain is damaging.
So is the physical risk you take in staying with an unfaithful person.
2.
There is addiction to drugs and alcohol, and your partner refuses help.
This can be a difficult situation, as it is tempting to rescue or get caught up in trying to minimize the various crises that occur as a result of your partner's using.
It is challenging to detach, and in any case the practical impact can be significant.
If your partner gets DUI's or injures someone while using, you may be affected by the legal or financial consequences.
3.
Your partner is abusive in any way toward you.
This might be physical or emotional, and both are damaging.
If you are being physically abused please contact a domestic violence shelter or counselor that specializes in this issue for help in constructing a safe plan for leaving.
One of the most dangerous junctures in a physically abusive relationship is at the time of leaving and professional help is a must.
Emotional abuse may not seem as immediately dangerous, but it does a great deal of psychological damage.
Being put down and controlled, made to feel inferior, incompetent, or crazy lowers self esteem and can lead to depression.
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