Fibromyalgia and You - Manage Your Relationship With Yourself - Your Conversations
The word "fibromyalgia" rings in your ear.
You just want a magic wand so that it will go away.
You want to wake up and feel good every day.
You do not want to explain to others what is wrong.
Are you familiar with any of these thoughts? What would it be like to say, "I have fibromyalgia and I really do enjoy the life I have" ? Living fully is what people with fibromyalgia want.
Saying "I love life every day" is a challenge.
Medical professionals have varying prescriptions to manage life with fibromyalgia.
Consider this: create a healthy relationship with yourself.
People with fibromyalgia can say, "I really do enjoy life.
" This is the result of conscious, purposeful actions.
You have three kinds of relationships.
You have a relationship with other people.
You have a relationship with a higher power (the name given depends on the spiritual belief system you choose).
You have a relationship with yourself.
The relationship you have with yourself is the conversation you have inside yourself - in your mind, in your spirit, in your heart.
These conversations then determine the behaviors you choose.
Managing the relationship with the self requires a conscious awareness of those conversations.
Your mind is thinking about things and deciding things all the time.
Some spiritual belief systems make reference to the importance of capturing your thoughts.
Capturing your thoughts is a skill to manage your relationship with yourself.
For example, you may have experienced a scenario like this: You are getting up for work.
You notice that the clock by your bed is not the same as the one on the wall.
You think, "Oh, my...
I am going to be late.
" And, you spend time and energy stressing and you are late for work.
Or, you can capture your thought and say, "Oh my, I will need to choose a shirt that doesn't need ironing and eat a breakfast bar today as I drive.
I have plenty of time.
" You are not stressed, you have redirected your thinking.
You may still be a couple minutes late.
However, you are managing your thoughts in a positive way.
Here are some suggestions to help you manage your thoughts:
Then choose which words you use.
This is a key ingredient to living the life you want.
You may not enjoy the chronic pain that comes with the condition of fibromyalgia.
You may not like that your energy drains away quickly.
The chemical events taking place in your body cannot be ignored.
And, the conversation you have with yourself does affect the chemicals in your brain.
Your conversation with yourself is what you have the most control over.
The conversations we have with our self is one purposeful action necessary to manage fibromyalagia.
Do you want to say, "I have fibromyalgia and I really do enjoy life?" Additional purposeful actions need to take place for the statement above to be authentically realized.
I am not a psychologist and I am not a medical specialist.
I am a woman who lives with the conditions of fibromyalgia in her body.
I am also a writer and certified life coach.
I believe that how I capture my thoughts does have an impact on my behaviors.
On days that I choose to focus on the discomforts, I do not enjoy life.
On the days that I choose to acknowledge my discomforts and then frame my conversations in a positive way, I do enjoy life.
I cannot control all of the events of my body.
I can control the words I use.
I can manage the relationship I have with myself.
You just want a magic wand so that it will go away.
You want to wake up and feel good every day.
You do not want to explain to others what is wrong.
Are you familiar with any of these thoughts? What would it be like to say, "I have fibromyalgia and I really do enjoy the life I have" ? Living fully is what people with fibromyalgia want.
Saying "I love life every day" is a challenge.
Medical professionals have varying prescriptions to manage life with fibromyalgia.
Consider this: create a healthy relationship with yourself.
People with fibromyalgia can say, "I really do enjoy life.
" This is the result of conscious, purposeful actions.
You have three kinds of relationships.
You have a relationship with other people.
You have a relationship with a higher power (the name given depends on the spiritual belief system you choose).
You have a relationship with yourself.
The relationship you have with yourself is the conversation you have inside yourself - in your mind, in your spirit, in your heart.
These conversations then determine the behaviors you choose.
Managing the relationship with the self requires a conscious awareness of those conversations.
Your mind is thinking about things and deciding things all the time.
Some spiritual belief systems make reference to the importance of capturing your thoughts.
Capturing your thoughts is a skill to manage your relationship with yourself.
For example, you may have experienced a scenario like this: You are getting up for work.
You notice that the clock by your bed is not the same as the one on the wall.
You think, "Oh, my...
I am going to be late.
" And, you spend time and energy stressing and you are late for work.
Or, you can capture your thought and say, "Oh my, I will need to choose a shirt that doesn't need ironing and eat a breakfast bar today as I drive.
I have plenty of time.
" You are not stressed, you have redirected your thinking.
You may still be a couple minutes late.
However, you are managing your thoughts in a positive way.
Here are some suggestions to help you manage your thoughts:
- Be selective on what you listen to.
If negative noise or garbage language is constantly inputted to the brain, then it reasons that the mind is using that negative noise or garbage language in other ways.
Likewise, if peaceful sounds or positive words are received into the body's senses, then the spirit has positive words and peaceful sounds to influence your thoughts. - Be selective on what you let your eyes watch.
Think about the images you are capturing for your brain to replay. - Be selective on the words you read.
Words have a powerful influence.
Consider the influence of favorite quotes or sayings.
What image comes to mind when you read the words, "Just do it!" - Journal.
Writing things down can help you see the conversations taking place in your mind. - Audio record the thoughts racing around in your head.
Then listen to what you recorded.
Hearing the words you say out loud is another way for the brain to be conscious of the conversation. - Sit in the most quiet location you can find.
Then listen consciously and see what happens. - Sketch your thoughts.
This may look like doodling, coloring something abstract, or creating a very detailed image.
- Do a mild physical activity completely alone.
Taking a walk alone provides a unique release of chemicals and also gives you an opportunity to listen to your thoughts.
- Learn a simple craft activity that has a lot of repetition.
Once you've learned the craft, such as stitching which is following a pattern in a repetitive motion, you may find yourself thinking about other things.
Pay attention to what you are thinking about.
Then choose which words you use.
This is a key ingredient to living the life you want.
You may not enjoy the chronic pain that comes with the condition of fibromyalgia.
You may not like that your energy drains away quickly.
The chemical events taking place in your body cannot be ignored.
And, the conversation you have with yourself does affect the chemicals in your brain.
Your conversation with yourself is what you have the most control over.
The conversations we have with our self is one purposeful action necessary to manage fibromyalagia.
Do you want to say, "I have fibromyalgia and I really do enjoy life?" Additional purposeful actions need to take place for the statement above to be authentically realized.
I am not a psychologist and I am not a medical specialist.
I am a woman who lives with the conditions of fibromyalgia in her body.
I am also a writer and certified life coach.
I believe that how I capture my thoughts does have an impact on my behaviors.
On days that I choose to focus on the discomforts, I do not enjoy life.
On the days that I choose to acknowledge my discomforts and then frame my conversations in a positive way, I do enjoy life.
I cannot control all of the events of my body.
I can control the words I use.
I can manage the relationship I have with myself.
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