What are your greatest goals and dreams? Are they starting a new business, increasing the size of your family, going back to school, taking a vacation or applying for a new job? Or, heaven forbid, you might be starting a new Network Marketing business! With all the challenges of these changes, ideally you want the support of your family and friends.
But, what happens when you tell those closest to you about your dreams and goals and they do not support you? Instead, they criticize you, belittle you, or discourage you.
Of course, you are going to question yourself, and frequently, sadly, give up on your dream.
But, don't you deserve to fulfill your goals and dreams? Don't you deserve to at least TRY? How do you get past the criticism, negativity, and discouragement of those closest to you? Always be careful about WHO you divulge your goals and dreams to.
Try to show discretion by seeking out only friends and family who will support you.
If you DO share your desires with people who discount your dreams, there are other ways to approach reaching your goals, without that approval.
One of the actions you can take is to find a Mentor.
A MENTOR, as defined in Wipikedia, is: "A trusted friend, counselor or teacher, usually a more experienced person.
" This person should have some experience in the field in which you wish to pursue.
The goal is to have someone who will help you set goals and help you find ways to achieve those goals.
This will help bolster your courage and self-esteem, which is essential for moving forward.
But what if you can't find a suitable mentor or supportive source? What is the untapped resource you have? It is YOU.
Inside YOU resides most of the answers to your success.
This resource remains unused in most of us.
We are constantly looking for approval outside of ourselves.
However, what if you are still facing opposition from your closest contacts after finding a mentor and tapping into your own internal gifts? "The best way to react when someone doesn't support your dreams is to welcome whatever reaction happens by itself," says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates.
If you are angry with the rest of the world and doubting your ability to succeed, this simply means that you should feel those feelings and allow yourself to accept them, acknowledge those feelings, then, let them go.
"If you try and NOT react you simply suppress your feelings and they go underground and fester, sabotaging both your relationships and your goals," Dwoskin says.
"By allowing yourself to welcome how you feel you can more easily let go and support yourself in your goals -- no matter how others react to them.
" By feeling what you are feeling, i.
e.
, frustrated, helpless, negated, then by accepting and letting go of those feelings, you gain lasting happiness, success, peace of mind, and emotional well-being.
"Remember to let go of wanting others to approve of your goals and aspirations, and instead take your own council or follow your own heart," Dwoskin says.
"Only by doing this will you be truly happy with your goals and you will also be much more likely to achieve them.
" Owning your dreams and goals, and not basing your success on what others think will free up your creative energies and allow you to move forward without dragging along the doubts and fears of others.
Let go of anger, fear and frustration.
Just simply let it move THROUGH you and not reside IN you.
You will feel lighter, more creative and definitely, more in control of your own life.
Don't be an approval junkie.
Trust yourself to have the answers or to find the answers.
Be discrete about who you confide your goals and dreams to.
Acknowledge the disappointments and negativity that may result in divulging your plans.
Let that negativity pass THROUGH you and not take up residence IN you.
Feel the relief letting go provides.
Then go out and pursue your dreams and goals with all the gifts you have to offer.