When The Words You Use Hurt Someone Else-Part 4Bragging
"Yeah, I got a lot of money in the bank.
" "I built my house from the ground up so I don't have the problems of a used home.
" "Everything I touch turns to gold.
" "Everybody loves me.
" "My teenagers are model kids, polite, never in trouble and always on the honor roll" I am very popular in my town.
If I ran for mayor everyone would probably vote for me.
" "I have forgotten more than you know" Bragging can be abusive.
Now there's a thin line between bragging and Feeling good about yourself and acknowledging what skills and abilities you have.
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Bragging becomes abusive when it is shared with someone for the purpose of showing them up or putting them down.
Suppose the person who brags about having a lot of money in the bank is sharing that with someone barely able to pay the rent? Or the person who was able to build a new house makes that remark to someone who struggles to keep an old house healthy with needed repairs? The person who brags about their popularity should be sensitive about sharing that around someone they know struggles with being accepted and approved.
The person who tells someone about how much they know is clearing positioning themselves to be superior in knowledge.
Be honest, do you enjoy hearing people bragging? Or do you attempt to have a brag-a-thon? That's when each person tries to out do each other in boasting.
Most of the time no one really cares.
Often it will build resentment and anger.
Of course you should be proud and happy if you have children without problems.
However, be SENSITIVE if you are sharing that in the hearing of people you KNOW have children who are a continual prayer challenge for their parents.
Consider,the statement made by Sally to a group of her girlfriends.
"Girl, my husband and I have had a great time last week.
We always talk to each other.
He never abuses me, verbally or physically.
" Now, that is great news for Sally and her husband.
But if Sally had been a little bit reflective she would have remembered who was in that group of girlfriends listening to her statements.
One woman was getting a divorce.
Another was a victim of abuse and another, just last week, shared how she wished her husband spend time with her again Each one was probably silently saying,"I wish my husband ...
" Should you stop sharing good news? - Of course not.
But be sensitive to the tone of your voice, true intentions of your sharing and the people who are listening to you.
If for a moment, you suspect your sharing has a selfish" I'll show them attitude" you may be bragging.
Check it out! All Rights Reserved, Rosemary Horner, 2007
" "I built my house from the ground up so I don't have the problems of a used home.
" "Everything I touch turns to gold.
" "Everybody loves me.
" "My teenagers are model kids, polite, never in trouble and always on the honor roll" I am very popular in my town.
If I ran for mayor everyone would probably vote for me.
" "I have forgotten more than you know" Bragging can be abusive.
Now there's a thin line between bragging and Feeling good about yourself and acknowledging what skills and abilities you have.
.
Bragging becomes abusive when it is shared with someone for the purpose of showing them up or putting them down.
Suppose the person who brags about having a lot of money in the bank is sharing that with someone barely able to pay the rent? Or the person who was able to build a new house makes that remark to someone who struggles to keep an old house healthy with needed repairs? The person who brags about their popularity should be sensitive about sharing that around someone they know struggles with being accepted and approved.
The person who tells someone about how much they know is clearing positioning themselves to be superior in knowledge.
Be honest, do you enjoy hearing people bragging? Or do you attempt to have a brag-a-thon? That's when each person tries to out do each other in boasting.
Most of the time no one really cares.
Often it will build resentment and anger.
Of course you should be proud and happy if you have children without problems.
However, be SENSITIVE if you are sharing that in the hearing of people you KNOW have children who are a continual prayer challenge for their parents.
Consider,the statement made by Sally to a group of her girlfriends.
"Girl, my husband and I have had a great time last week.
We always talk to each other.
He never abuses me, verbally or physically.
" Now, that is great news for Sally and her husband.
But if Sally had been a little bit reflective she would have remembered who was in that group of girlfriends listening to her statements.
One woman was getting a divorce.
Another was a victim of abuse and another, just last week, shared how she wished her husband spend time with her again Each one was probably silently saying,"I wish my husband ...
" Should you stop sharing good news? - Of course not.
But be sensitive to the tone of your voice, true intentions of your sharing and the people who are listening to you.
If for a moment, you suspect your sharing has a selfish" I'll show them attitude" you may be bragging.
Check it out! All Rights Reserved, Rosemary Horner, 2007
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