When initiating on a new relationship it is so important that you do not carry scars of previous relationships in with you.
If you bring whatever they may be, your are heading for a road of failure before you even begin.
Life is new and exciting, every relationship is different and what has happened to you previously won't necessarily happen again.
Always remember that every person has a different way in love.
If you have been cheated on in a previous relationship, or unceremoniously dumped then there are going to be obvious scars.
But you cannot punish the person in your new relationship for mistakes that have happened previously and that were nothing to do with them.
If there are certain things you can do to try and stop what happened to you before from happening again, then follow those, but don't resent your new partner.
If for example you didn't show your previous partner enough affection or attention then that is something you can rectify.
But you cannot hold a betrayal against a new partner.
It is not fair to distrust your partner or suspect her of doing things just because that is what you are expecting them to do.
And if you believe this it begs the question why you are even with them anyway.
Certain scars that you have may have been your problem anyway.
You also have to remember that everyone has baggage and also has a past relationship history.
They may have certain relationship scars anyway so it is important that you hold this in mind, and be considerate.
You should know that they obviously want to forget, but it can sometimes be difficult and they are possibly going through the same emotions that you are.
A good way to shirk off any fears you might have, is to ally them by simply discussing them with your partner.
A problem shared is a problem halved and in this case you could not be sharing your problem with a more influential person.
They are the cause for your concern so if you can get them to reassure you and you believe them, then your problem is gone.
On the same coin it is worth listening to what they have to say, and if they have any of the same fears you can reassure them.
Make the most of your relationship, leave those battle scars behind and give yourself half a chance of finding yourself true love.
If you bring whatever they may be, your are heading for a road of failure before you even begin.
Life is new and exciting, every relationship is different and what has happened to you previously won't necessarily happen again.
Always remember that every person has a different way in love.
If you have been cheated on in a previous relationship, or unceremoniously dumped then there are going to be obvious scars.
But you cannot punish the person in your new relationship for mistakes that have happened previously and that were nothing to do with them.
If there are certain things you can do to try and stop what happened to you before from happening again, then follow those, but don't resent your new partner.
If for example you didn't show your previous partner enough affection or attention then that is something you can rectify.
But you cannot hold a betrayal against a new partner.
It is not fair to distrust your partner or suspect her of doing things just because that is what you are expecting them to do.
And if you believe this it begs the question why you are even with them anyway.
Certain scars that you have may have been your problem anyway.
You also have to remember that everyone has baggage and also has a past relationship history.
They may have certain relationship scars anyway so it is important that you hold this in mind, and be considerate.
You should know that they obviously want to forget, but it can sometimes be difficult and they are possibly going through the same emotions that you are.
A good way to shirk off any fears you might have, is to ally them by simply discussing them with your partner.
A problem shared is a problem halved and in this case you could not be sharing your problem with a more influential person.
They are the cause for your concern so if you can get them to reassure you and you believe them, then your problem is gone.
On the same coin it is worth listening to what they have to say, and if they have any of the same fears you can reassure them.
Make the most of your relationship, leave those battle scars behind and give yourself half a chance of finding yourself true love.
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