The trouble with many relationships is that they often suffer from complacency.
You both may be the same people you fell in love with, however, the dynamics between you may need attention.
You need to shift your focus away from "I'm losing my boyfriend! What should I do?" to "What am I doing to drain the excitement from our relationship?" You'll be surprised to see that it may not be anything you are doing consciously.
The habits and routines of daily life can sometimes create the friction or barriers that can lead to disconnect, disinterest and, ultimately, resentment.
You need to check your own routine to see if the "normal" day-to-day things you do are sucking the magic out of your relationship.
Here's your self examination: 1.
Are you stuck to your screen? How often do you go off to check your email with a "I'll just be a minute", only to find yourself an hour later with your red eyes stuck to your screen.
When you're boyfriend stops wondering where you are, you have big problems.
2.
Do you spread yourself too thin? It's great if you are busy with activities but if more of your time is spent on activities that don't include your boyfriend, then you're probably not paying enough attention to him.
If that's the case, don't expect him to pay attention to you.
3.
Do you make yourself too available to the world? The cell phone, and instant access, has changed our lives, but not always for the better.
When you readily take those calls, while he is there with you, you are allowing everyone else to impose on your relationship.
Turn off the phone when you are with him - and, let him see you do it.
4.
Do you multi-task? You are with him, yet you are also trying to do other things at the same time.
If you're running around getting things done, even though he's there with you, you're not really there with him.
Get him involved with your tasks or simply put them off until you've had some alone time with him.
5.
Are you allowing your relationship to fade? Every day that you don't take action on your relationship you are making a choice not to let it fade.
If he feels the relationship is not important to you, so he will lose interest.
Best advice is to make time for fun time at least a few times a week.
And make time for talking at least once a day.
You both may be the same people you fell in love with, however, the dynamics between you may need attention.
You need to shift your focus away from "I'm losing my boyfriend! What should I do?" to "What am I doing to drain the excitement from our relationship?" You'll be surprised to see that it may not be anything you are doing consciously.
The habits and routines of daily life can sometimes create the friction or barriers that can lead to disconnect, disinterest and, ultimately, resentment.
You need to check your own routine to see if the "normal" day-to-day things you do are sucking the magic out of your relationship.
Here's your self examination: 1.
Are you stuck to your screen? How often do you go off to check your email with a "I'll just be a minute", only to find yourself an hour later with your red eyes stuck to your screen.
When you're boyfriend stops wondering where you are, you have big problems.
2.
Do you spread yourself too thin? It's great if you are busy with activities but if more of your time is spent on activities that don't include your boyfriend, then you're probably not paying enough attention to him.
If that's the case, don't expect him to pay attention to you.
3.
Do you make yourself too available to the world? The cell phone, and instant access, has changed our lives, but not always for the better.
When you readily take those calls, while he is there with you, you are allowing everyone else to impose on your relationship.
Turn off the phone when you are with him - and, let him see you do it.
4.
Do you multi-task? You are with him, yet you are also trying to do other things at the same time.
If you're running around getting things done, even though he's there with you, you're not really there with him.
Get him involved with your tasks or simply put them off until you've had some alone time with him.
5.
Are you allowing your relationship to fade? Every day that you don't take action on your relationship you are making a choice not to let it fade.
If he feels the relationship is not important to you, so he will lose interest.
Best advice is to make time for fun time at least a few times a week.
And make time for talking at least once a day.
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