At the age of 72, Jim is a chronic complainer.
I learned a long time ago that I don't need to buy a newspaper or watch television to know what's wrong with the world; there are plenty of people like Jim who will tell me what's wrong.
Complaining, gossiping, criticizing, and negative thinking are some of the deadliest habits.
Little by little, negativity eats away at a person's health and eliminates the possibility for happiness.
If someone close to you is a complainer, a criticizer, or a negative thinker, your own well-being is at risk.
Complaining about things beyond our direct control is one of the most destructive habits.
Yes, I know, it's also one of the most common things that people do.
We complain about the weather; we talk about whoever is the focus of the latest celebrity scandal; we blame the government-any government-for everything that's wrong.
Complaining about things we can't control is a very effective way to avoid facing up to things that we can do something about.
By spending his life complaining about things that he is powerless to change, Jim avoids having to confront his own negative thinking and bitterness.
Jim wants everyone else to change.
He blames everyone else for his problems: his parents, a former business partner, the government, the local economy.
In his present state, he can't begin to understand that his unhappiness has nothing to do with any of these things, and everything to do with his habit of blaming others for what's wrong in his life.
Jim doesn't have a habit that causes a clear health risk.
He doesn't smoke, drink, use drugs, or overeat.
But his health is failing, and he is worried about the need for major surgery.
Although negative thinking hasn't been conclusively linked to cancer or heart disease, researchers are beginning to find evidence that resentment, bitterness, and hatred literally kill people.
Jim feels no reason to change his own attitude or behavior.
He is a classic example of a person who is unable to recognize the true cause of his unhappiness.
Jim is in denial.
Denial is the first stage in the cycle of self-change.
The vast majority of people whose health, happiness, or relationships are being threatened by a self-destructive habit spend months, if not years, in a stage where they deny the seriousness of the problem.
I learned a long time ago that I don't need to buy a newspaper or watch television to know what's wrong with the world; there are plenty of people like Jim who will tell me what's wrong.
Complaining, gossiping, criticizing, and negative thinking are some of the deadliest habits.
Little by little, negativity eats away at a person's health and eliminates the possibility for happiness.
If someone close to you is a complainer, a criticizer, or a negative thinker, your own well-being is at risk.
Complaining about things beyond our direct control is one of the most destructive habits.
Yes, I know, it's also one of the most common things that people do.
We complain about the weather; we talk about whoever is the focus of the latest celebrity scandal; we blame the government-any government-for everything that's wrong.
Complaining about things we can't control is a very effective way to avoid facing up to things that we can do something about.
By spending his life complaining about things that he is powerless to change, Jim avoids having to confront his own negative thinking and bitterness.
Jim wants everyone else to change.
He blames everyone else for his problems: his parents, a former business partner, the government, the local economy.
In his present state, he can't begin to understand that his unhappiness has nothing to do with any of these things, and everything to do with his habit of blaming others for what's wrong in his life.
Jim doesn't have a habit that causes a clear health risk.
He doesn't smoke, drink, use drugs, or overeat.
But his health is failing, and he is worried about the need for major surgery.
Although negative thinking hasn't been conclusively linked to cancer or heart disease, researchers are beginning to find evidence that resentment, bitterness, and hatred literally kill people.
Jim feels no reason to change his own attitude or behavior.
He is a classic example of a person who is unable to recognize the true cause of his unhappiness.
Jim is in denial.
Denial is the first stage in the cycle of self-change.
The vast majority of people whose health, happiness, or relationships are being threatened by a self-destructive habit spend months, if not years, in a stage where they deny the seriousness of the problem.
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