Dirty Secret #1: Men are machines.
Let me start by asking you a few questions. When you find out a man is cheating on you, have you ever for a split second doubted that it could have been your fault? In the middle of feeling betrayed and angry, have you for an instance thought that it was really you that pushed him into cheating? Have you ever wondered, "could it have been my fault?"... The answer is .... Yes.
Why? You may ask. How could it possibly be my fault? He was the one who cheated. He was the one who had an affair behind my back. He was the jerk here, not me.
These are all valid arguments. You're right that he has betrayed you. He's the one who's in the wrong here. I have to say, if you focus on WHAT it is happening, instead of WHY it is happening, you're absolutely right. He's the bad guy.
But let's just step back for one second and consider this situation from a different perspective. Instead of focusing on WHAT is happening, I want you to think about WHY it is happening. Just bear with me for a minute here. Why is he cheating? Why is he having an affair? What triggered it? Who caused it?
See, here's the truth. A man doesn't just cheat out of thin air. He doesn't just cheat out of nowhere. He cheats when he's hungry. He cheats when he's unsatisfied. He cheats when he has unfulfilled needs.
In fact, men are like machines. When you push a button on a machine, what happens?
It follows your exact instruction. Men work the same way. They don't just automatically do things. They react. They react to external triggers. They react to external stimuli. They react to things you say and things you do. And if the action he carries out is cheating, then won't you be curious to find out what is the button that you have pushed that directly results this exact behaviour?
Here are the things I want you to think about today. I want you to go deeper and get to the core of the problems. Don't just settle for what is happening. Instead, find out why. Only when that happens, you can kill the problem at its root. And eliminate the problem of being cheated on for the rest of your life.
All right, that's all for today. We'll continue today's discussion and Post the second part of the series. In particular, I'll introduce you to the 3 specific things women do that push men into cheating. This is something you don't want to miss. Understanding this one thing alone could save your relationship and protect your man from having an affair down the road.
Until then ...
Love and Success
Let me start by asking you a few questions. When you find out a man is cheating on you, have you ever for a split second doubted that it could have been your fault? In the middle of feeling betrayed and angry, have you for an instance thought that it was really you that pushed him into cheating? Have you ever wondered, "could it have been my fault?"... The answer is .... Yes.
Why? You may ask. How could it possibly be my fault? He was the one who cheated. He was the one who had an affair behind my back. He was the jerk here, not me.
These are all valid arguments. You're right that he has betrayed you. He's the one who's in the wrong here. I have to say, if you focus on WHAT it is happening, instead of WHY it is happening, you're absolutely right. He's the bad guy.
But let's just step back for one second and consider this situation from a different perspective. Instead of focusing on WHAT is happening, I want you to think about WHY it is happening. Just bear with me for a minute here. Why is he cheating? Why is he having an affair? What triggered it? Who caused it?
See, here's the truth. A man doesn't just cheat out of thin air. He doesn't just cheat out of nowhere. He cheats when he's hungry. He cheats when he's unsatisfied. He cheats when he has unfulfilled needs.
In fact, men are like machines. When you push a button on a machine, what happens?
It follows your exact instruction. Men work the same way. They don't just automatically do things. They react. They react to external triggers. They react to external stimuli. They react to things you say and things you do. And if the action he carries out is cheating, then won't you be curious to find out what is the button that you have pushed that directly results this exact behaviour?
Here are the things I want you to think about today. I want you to go deeper and get to the core of the problems. Don't just settle for what is happening. Instead, find out why. Only when that happens, you can kill the problem at its root. And eliminate the problem of being cheated on for the rest of your life.
All right, that's all for today. We'll continue today's discussion and Post the second part of the series. In particular, I'll introduce you to the 3 specific things women do that push men into cheating. This is something you don't want to miss. Understanding this one thing alone could save your relationship and protect your man from having an affair down the road.
Until then ...
Love and Success
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