Tyler Perry asked the candid question in one of his hit movies, Why Did I Get Married?.
The reasons are probably as numbered as the sand.
Some may simply be "in love".
Others may get married because it's the moral or Christian thing to do.
Whatever their reasons, across the board too many couples go into marriage thinking that it is going to always going to be roses and sunshine.
Now, don't get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing, and, yes, there are plenty of rosy and sunny days.
However, there is also this thing called "life" that happens to us all, and there has to be more to sustain a marriage when "life" hits than fuzzy emotions and euphoric fantasies.
Marriage, a healthy marriage, requires preventative maintenance, so-to-speak, to be as prepared as possible to weather "life" and to maintain a well-tuned relationship.
The preventive maintenance should begin before you say I Do.
It should be your goal to enter into marriage as prepared as possible.
Consequently, in a number of instances, this is not the case.
We enter into marriage cold, and either sink or swim, and, it seems, in the first two years of marriage, there can be a dramatic struggle for power in your relationship: Who is going to lead? Who will follow? Who will manage the money? How are we going to raise the kids? Are we going to have kids? Who will get their way in times of disagreement? You see, everything is up for grabs in the beginning.
The way you lay the foundation on the decisions you make now, will set the stage for the future.
"If a kingdom is divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand.
"(Mark 3:24).
If you both make the conscious effort to go into the relationship looking to get your way, you are setting your kingdom up for failure.
This "struggle" is counter-productive and a recipe for disaster.
The apostle Paul gave us this divine perspective on human relationships that we should, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.
" (Philippians 2:3).
The foundation of the marriage we all desire is unity, communication, and compromise.
Remember, when you understand that marriage is a partnership and, thus, you are indeed a team, you will invest the necessary time and energy needed to make your team win!
The reasons are probably as numbered as the sand.
Some may simply be "in love".
Others may get married because it's the moral or Christian thing to do.
Whatever their reasons, across the board too many couples go into marriage thinking that it is going to always going to be roses and sunshine.
Now, don't get me wrong, marriage is a beautiful thing, and, yes, there are plenty of rosy and sunny days.
However, there is also this thing called "life" that happens to us all, and there has to be more to sustain a marriage when "life" hits than fuzzy emotions and euphoric fantasies.
Marriage, a healthy marriage, requires preventative maintenance, so-to-speak, to be as prepared as possible to weather "life" and to maintain a well-tuned relationship.
The preventive maintenance should begin before you say I Do.
It should be your goal to enter into marriage as prepared as possible.
Consequently, in a number of instances, this is not the case.
We enter into marriage cold, and either sink or swim, and, it seems, in the first two years of marriage, there can be a dramatic struggle for power in your relationship: Who is going to lead? Who will follow? Who will manage the money? How are we going to raise the kids? Are we going to have kids? Who will get their way in times of disagreement? You see, everything is up for grabs in the beginning.
The way you lay the foundation on the decisions you make now, will set the stage for the future.
"If a kingdom is divided against itself, that kingdom cannot stand.
"(Mark 3:24).
If you both make the conscious effort to go into the relationship looking to get your way, you are setting your kingdom up for failure.
This "struggle" is counter-productive and a recipe for disaster.
The apostle Paul gave us this divine perspective on human relationships that we should, "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.
" (Philippians 2:3).
The foundation of the marriage we all desire is unity, communication, and compromise.
Remember, when you understand that marriage is a partnership and, thus, you are indeed a team, you will invest the necessary time and energy needed to make your team win!
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