"SORRY" - this simple five letter word can work magic.
And while it is sometimes the hardest word to say, it can change so many things; the way people think about us, and even how much they care for us as well as how close to us they feel.
Even after knowing the magic this word can do, there are certain times when we do not want to say - "I'm Sorry".
Sometime our ego stops us from saying sorry.
We can feel like if we would say sorry, we would lose our value.
This is not to say that you should just say sorry every time something comes up for you and your partner.
The really important thing to remember here is that it takes two to make a relationship and two to break it.
Therefore, no matter what the situation is, there is going to be fault on both parts.
The task here then is to figure out what part of the issue is yours and what your responsibility is to that and to be willing to say sorry for that regardless of whether the other person is willing to take responsibility for their part and/or is willing to say sorry for that or not.
If you feel that you should be saying sorry but are not able to then there is some other issue that may be stopping you which may need to be explored first.
I strongly agree with the statement often said that, "IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU SHOULD NOT HESITATE TO SAY SORRY EVEN IF IT IS THEIR MISTAKE".
The important thing to remember here is really about what are you saying sorry for and to express that to yourself and your partner.
Your partner then will be compelled to look at their part in the issue and will then make up their own minds.
They may then, or may not, say that they are equally sorry for their part.
Keep in mind though that whether they say sorry or not should not be what makes you decide to say it.
Your sorry should be offered openly and honestly, without condition or expectation of something coming back.
Finding A Way From Being Mad To Saying Sorry Test: There is a simple "SAYING SORRY TEST" you can take to discover if you are ready to say sorry or not.
Answer each of the following questions as honestly as possible.
It may even be helpful to write down your answers:
Even if you conclude from this that it really isn't for you to say sorry you should be able to at least say sorry for the difficult situation you both find yourselves in.
From sorry then comes forgiveness and I'll address this concept further in another article.
And while it is sometimes the hardest word to say, it can change so many things; the way people think about us, and even how much they care for us as well as how close to us they feel.
Even after knowing the magic this word can do, there are certain times when we do not want to say - "I'm Sorry".
Sometime our ego stops us from saying sorry.
We can feel like if we would say sorry, we would lose our value.
This is not to say that you should just say sorry every time something comes up for you and your partner.
The really important thing to remember here is that it takes two to make a relationship and two to break it.
Therefore, no matter what the situation is, there is going to be fault on both parts.
The task here then is to figure out what part of the issue is yours and what your responsibility is to that and to be willing to say sorry for that regardless of whether the other person is willing to take responsibility for their part and/or is willing to say sorry for that or not.
If you feel that you should be saying sorry but are not able to then there is some other issue that may be stopping you which may need to be explored first.
I strongly agree with the statement often said that, "IN A RELATIONSHIP YOU SHOULD NOT HESITATE TO SAY SORRY EVEN IF IT IS THEIR MISTAKE".
The important thing to remember here is really about what are you saying sorry for and to express that to yourself and your partner.
Your partner then will be compelled to look at their part in the issue and will then make up their own minds.
They may then, or may not, say that they are equally sorry for their part.
Keep in mind though that whether they say sorry or not should not be what makes you decide to say it.
Your sorry should be offered openly and honestly, without condition or expectation of something coming back.
Finding A Way From Being Mad To Saying Sorry Test: There is a simple "SAYING SORRY TEST" you can take to discover if you are ready to say sorry or not.
Answer each of the following questions as honestly as possible.
It may even be helpful to write down your answers:
- What is the truth about the issue? It can still only be your perspective, and your partner will have their own perspective, but somewhere in that you should be able to find a way to trace the events that led to the issue and ascertain your part in that.
- What does the other person in the event mean to you? If they are very important to you and you think that losing them would be a great loss for you, then do not hesitate to initiate the apology.
Even if you think the mistake is theirs remember that you are a part of it and can take responsibility for that. - What do you mean to them? Do they really love you? Are you willing to let a potentially unresolved issue get in the way of your long term relationship? The truth here is that any issue left unresolved will not go away on its own; it will become an irritant until one day it finds a way out through via some other issue.
Even if you conclude from this that it really isn't for you to say sorry you should be able to at least say sorry for the difficult situation you both find yourselves in.
From sorry then comes forgiveness and I'll address this concept further in another article.
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