Codependency is a behavior which is usually a learned behavior.
It's commonly shaped in the early years of a person's life.
It can be passed down from generation to generation if this unhealthy behavior is pushed onto a young individual's life.
It robs an individual from having a healthy and mutually satisfying life.
Instead, a person keeps trying to adjust themselves to the needs of highly demanding individuals in their lives.
It is often a losing battle.
It is common for codependent individuals to be out of touch with their own needs.
Here are a few of the symptoms of codepenedency below.
Feel free to take the test to see which ones you may identify with and if it is the majority of the ones listed, let me encourage you to consider getting some additional help and support.
I will talk about that at the end of this article.
Symptoms:

1. Out of touch with your needs, what your desires are.
   Your "desires" usually revolves around another person or people in your life.
   What their desire are, happen to also be your desires.
   
2. Boundaries are very gray and unclear.
   You find it very difficult to say, 'no' when others are making outrageous requests of you.
   Feeling obligated is very common.
   
3. Fear of others' anger.
   The anger of others does trigger intense fear or discomfort.
   You may even have a fear of your own anger and are afraid to express it.
   Repression or denial of anger might be how you handle that feeling since it often triggers a fear that it will destroy the relationship or fear of how you are perceived after expressing your anger.
   
4. Struggle with low self-esteem.
   The value of self is at the need to be needed, and you often feel important or valued only when you are needed even if the needs are unhealthy demands on you.
   
5. False sense of responsibility.
   You tend to blame yourself or take responsibility for anything that goes wrong in the relationship.
   If a toxic individual fails to take responsibility and blames you, your tendency is to accept the blame with minimal question.
   
6. Denial, rationalize, minimize behavior.
   Codependent individuals often tend to keep themselves and their minds so busy that they don't recognize this behavior.
   You deny your needs, deny that you might be taking on the lionshare of responsibility.
   You minimize toxic people's behavior in your life.
   You may deny your needs.
   You stay so busy you miss all the signs of codependent behavior!
7. Excessive care-taking.
   This actually coincides with false sense of responsibility because you are trying to anticipate what others needs are even before they say it, to avoid possible rejection.
   Yet, this behavior is usually one-sided rather than mutually reciprical.
   

If you struggle with codependency and you finally recognize some of the symptoms you do have choices.
You don't have to figure it all on your own.
Find a counselor in your area who specializes in helping individuals with codependecy issues and who understands these dynamics in the family background.