Tip 1 - If You Can't Forgive Someone, Forgive Your Self When we are in a traumatic situation, it is important to forgive ourselves for being in the situation in the first place.
Look at the situation and see what you can learn from it.
By doing this, you have now switched it from a negative to a positive.
It is now a tool to keep the same thing from happening again, because of the understanding that you have obtained.
Tip 2 - Imagine the Person You are Trying to Forgive as a Newborn Baby Sometimes it is difficult to forgive someone, because you see "all his or her negative traits".
A way to get past that is to see them as a newborn baby when they are free of those traits, and still have an innocence about them.
This makes forgiving them easier.
Tip 3 - Write "I Forgive (Person, or Situation)" and then Write Your Automatic Negative Thought.
An example would be:
Write it as many times as you need.
You might write it 20 times and that is enough.
You might have to write a little each day, as you keep getting closer to the unconscious thought.
Tip 4 - Imagine Yourself and the Person You Want to Forgive Surrounded in Golden Light.
Your imagination is a free tool that is unlimited in its scope.
So let's use it.
When you have trouble forgiving someone, see him or her surrounded in the most beautiful loving light.
Then do this for your self.
When you do this, it helps you to not be "sending" negative thoughts their way.
It is amazing how often this can turn negative situations around.
The other person starts reacting differently due to the new energy coming their way.
It also helps you to view the situation from a higher perspective.
Tip 5 - If forgiveness is difficult for you, start with forgiving the person and not the deed.
We are often angry at what someone did, how they acted in a situation.
We want to be right, and make them wrong.
So we don't let go.
For that reason, let us start with forgiving the person and not the deed.
Remember the times they did something nice to you or for you.
This will assist you in forgiving them.
Tip 6 - Always Remember to Forgive Yourself First When you forgive your self first, it frees you up to look at any situation more objectively.
When you don't forgive your self, you beat your self up, and then you just continue a negative downward spiral.
Look at the situation and see what you can learn from it.
By doing this, you have now switched it from a negative to a positive.
It is now a tool to keep the same thing from happening again, because of the understanding that you have obtained.
Tip 2 - Imagine the Person You are Trying to Forgive as a Newborn Baby Sometimes it is difficult to forgive someone, because you see "all his or her negative traits".
A way to get past that is to see them as a newborn baby when they are free of those traits, and still have an innocence about them.
This makes forgiving them easier.
Tip 3 - Write "I Forgive (Person, or Situation)" and then Write Your Automatic Negative Thought.
An example would be:
- Forgiveness Phrase-Automatic Thought
- I forgive my self for getting fat-No I don't
- I forgive my self for getting fat-Who do you think you are kidding
- I forgive my self for getting fat-I can't do that
- I forgive my self for getting fat-Mom always thought I was to thin
Write it as many times as you need.
You might write it 20 times and that is enough.
You might have to write a little each day, as you keep getting closer to the unconscious thought.
Tip 4 - Imagine Yourself and the Person You Want to Forgive Surrounded in Golden Light.
Your imagination is a free tool that is unlimited in its scope.
So let's use it.
When you have trouble forgiving someone, see him or her surrounded in the most beautiful loving light.
Then do this for your self.
When you do this, it helps you to not be "sending" negative thoughts their way.
It is amazing how often this can turn negative situations around.
The other person starts reacting differently due to the new energy coming their way.
It also helps you to view the situation from a higher perspective.
Tip 5 - If forgiveness is difficult for you, start with forgiving the person and not the deed.
We are often angry at what someone did, how they acted in a situation.
We want to be right, and make them wrong.
So we don't let go.
For that reason, let us start with forgiving the person and not the deed.
Remember the times they did something nice to you or for you.
This will assist you in forgiving them.
Tip 6 - Always Remember to Forgive Yourself First When you forgive your self first, it frees you up to look at any situation more objectively.
When you don't forgive your self, you beat your self up, and then you just continue a negative downward spiral.
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