No matter if you are 20 or 40; there is just something that is so yummy about an older man. For me, it was Sean Connery and he may have had grey hair but he still looked like he had muscles on top of muscle with his shirt off and who could resist that sexy accent? Granted not all older men can be Mr. Connery or whoever your best fantasy is but taken on their own merits they can be interesting and fun to date.
1. First off and foremost, follow your instincts and stay safe. Women everywhere have made great strides in being confident and independent, but that does not mean that we should throw caution to the wind. Until you know someone well, always let someone know where you will be and when you will check in, and meet in very public locations. If someone feels creepy to you, just walk away; some men are single for a reason.
2. Do not become the other woman. That is a horrible position to put yourself in, and no one will respect you for it, including you. In that light, find out as soon as you meet if your potential new man is married or not. If married, run away fast, but if not, carry on.
3. Be realistic. Your man may be into a good time, but be prepared to spend some downtime with him too. As we age, we get a bit slower, and the older man is no different. So while one day you may be water skiing or hitting the slopes and the next enjoying a drink on the beach or by the fire in the lodge.
4. The same thing applies in the bedroom. As men age, their sex drive goes down a bit. So while they may not be able to perform time after time, like younger men, they have experience to balance it out. Over time your man may have picked up a few tricks that will balance out his need to recover and blow your mind at the same time.
5. Get to know your man on several levels. This does not mean asking what every move he makes means, but learning about his goals and seeing if they match yours. Older men may be out for a good time, and you may be too, and if that is the way it is, go for it. But he may be at that point in his life where he wants to get married, have kids, or maybe already has kids or is looking toward retirement. Do they match with yours? Be honest with yourself first, then with him.
6. Speaking of honesty be yourself. If you think that the man you have your eye on will think that you are too young, it may be tempting for you to act older or more mature. That is big mistake because eventually you will forget to act and he will think you are a liar and it will end badly. Besides, what is there not to love about you?
7. Dating someone who may not get the same cultural references as you can be challenging, but if you have some sort of common ground like a hobby, it is much easier. Maybe the two of you like dancing, so taking some new dance lessons together would be fun. Maybe you both like the outdoorsy thing, so camping or fishing would be a great time for you both. With common ground that age gap shrinks to zero.
8. Not everyone views dating older men as the fun time you do, so be prepared for people to stare, make rude comments, or even ask snide questions. While these may make you angry, do not let them get to you. It is your relationship, the two of you are happy, and everyone else can take a flying leap.
9. There is that old saying that the way to a mans heart is through his stomach, and there is some truth to that old phrase. An older man appreciates a home cooked hearty meal now and again. While no one is expecting you to be a gourmet chef, learning how to prepare a few dishes well is a plus.
10. Lastly, many of us women have the instinct to nurture and care for those around us, and it can be a great thing for many relationships, but not the one with your older man. Do not mother him that is not why he is with you. If you cant help yourself, get a dog.
1. First off and foremost, follow your instincts and stay safe. Women everywhere have made great strides in being confident and independent, but that does not mean that we should throw caution to the wind. Until you know someone well, always let someone know where you will be and when you will check in, and meet in very public locations. If someone feels creepy to you, just walk away; some men are single for a reason.
2. Do not become the other woman. That is a horrible position to put yourself in, and no one will respect you for it, including you. In that light, find out as soon as you meet if your potential new man is married or not. If married, run away fast, but if not, carry on.
3. Be realistic. Your man may be into a good time, but be prepared to spend some downtime with him too. As we age, we get a bit slower, and the older man is no different. So while one day you may be water skiing or hitting the slopes and the next enjoying a drink on the beach or by the fire in the lodge.
4. The same thing applies in the bedroom. As men age, their sex drive goes down a bit. So while they may not be able to perform time after time, like younger men, they have experience to balance it out. Over time your man may have picked up a few tricks that will balance out his need to recover and blow your mind at the same time.
5. Get to know your man on several levels. This does not mean asking what every move he makes means, but learning about his goals and seeing if they match yours. Older men may be out for a good time, and you may be too, and if that is the way it is, go for it. But he may be at that point in his life where he wants to get married, have kids, or maybe already has kids or is looking toward retirement. Do they match with yours? Be honest with yourself first, then with him.
6. Speaking of honesty be yourself. If you think that the man you have your eye on will think that you are too young, it may be tempting for you to act older or more mature. That is big mistake because eventually you will forget to act and he will think you are a liar and it will end badly. Besides, what is there not to love about you?
7. Dating someone who may not get the same cultural references as you can be challenging, but if you have some sort of common ground like a hobby, it is much easier. Maybe the two of you like dancing, so taking some new dance lessons together would be fun. Maybe you both like the outdoorsy thing, so camping or fishing would be a great time for you both. With common ground that age gap shrinks to zero.
8. Not everyone views dating older men as the fun time you do, so be prepared for people to stare, make rude comments, or even ask snide questions. While these may make you angry, do not let them get to you. It is your relationship, the two of you are happy, and everyone else can take a flying leap.
9. There is that old saying that the way to a mans heart is through his stomach, and there is some truth to that old phrase. An older man appreciates a home cooked hearty meal now and again. While no one is expecting you to be a gourmet chef, learning how to prepare a few dishes well is a plus.
10. Lastly, many of us women have the instinct to nurture and care for those around us, and it can be a great thing for many relationships, but not the one with your older man. Do not mother him that is not why he is with you. If you cant help yourself, get a dog.
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