The stresses involved in life in this day and age coupled with easy divorces have led to a failure rate of over 50% within the first six to seven years of a marriage. Many of these marriages could be saved if one or both of the partners were prepared to put in a little effort. It's really just changing a couple of bad habits into good ones and looking back to the early days of your relationship. The following are just a few steps to avoid divorce out of many possibilities. Try one today and start saving your marriage.
Do you discuss things or do you argue? Are you calm and thoughtful or do you end up shouting at each other? Communication between a couple can never be overrated -- it's the lifeblood of a lasting, respectful relationship. You need to be capable of expressing your thoughts and feelings in a calm manner to bring issues into the open and resolve them before they have a chance to fester.
Are you married to your best friend? You should be. You should not regard your partner as being anything other than a friend you have chosen to spend the rest of your life, and perhaps raise a family, with. Putting them on a pedestal effectively removes them from your regular life and "marriage" and "life" become separated. Your spouse is your life, there to share your joys and sorrows, triumphs and failures, to share all those moments with you.
Do you consult your friends about marriage issues? It's nice to have that sympathetic ear isn't it? And they always tell you what you want to hear don't they? Friends are truly great but they can never take the place of professional marriage guidance. A professional counselor will be able to give you an unbiased perspective of your marriage and the issues you are facing. They are trained to show you how to negotiate a productive course through marriage and avoid the rocks of divorce.
Getting in touch with a counselor in the early stages when you first sense a problem can help you understand how to handle it and move onwards. Many couples will visit a marriage counselor every once in a while even when no problem exists. Popping in for a checkup so to speak. Preventing issues from ever rising is far better than trying to battle them once they have established themselves.
Do you have time for each other? Or has life blurred into a haze you pass through seemingly on your own? You need to be able to take time out just for your partner without all life's usual distractions. Learn to appreciate each other again outside the world of phones, bills and children. Time is our most precious commodity -- it is non-renewable, every moment should be used to our advantage because you never have a second chance. So filter a few precious minutes away from your jobs and chores and spend them with your spouse and strengthen that bond.
These are just a few ideas to get you thinking. Use your imagination and take yourself back to your courting days. Remember your enthusiasm? Rediscover it and put some back into your marriage. You don't need to do everything at once, just one step at a time, but keep practicing.
Do you discuss things or do you argue? Are you calm and thoughtful or do you end up shouting at each other? Communication between a couple can never be overrated -- it's the lifeblood of a lasting, respectful relationship. You need to be capable of expressing your thoughts and feelings in a calm manner to bring issues into the open and resolve them before they have a chance to fester.
Are you married to your best friend? You should be. You should not regard your partner as being anything other than a friend you have chosen to spend the rest of your life, and perhaps raise a family, with. Putting them on a pedestal effectively removes them from your regular life and "marriage" and "life" become separated. Your spouse is your life, there to share your joys and sorrows, triumphs and failures, to share all those moments with you.
Do you consult your friends about marriage issues? It's nice to have that sympathetic ear isn't it? And they always tell you what you want to hear don't they? Friends are truly great but they can never take the place of professional marriage guidance. A professional counselor will be able to give you an unbiased perspective of your marriage and the issues you are facing. They are trained to show you how to negotiate a productive course through marriage and avoid the rocks of divorce.
Getting in touch with a counselor in the early stages when you first sense a problem can help you understand how to handle it and move onwards. Many couples will visit a marriage counselor every once in a while even when no problem exists. Popping in for a checkup so to speak. Preventing issues from ever rising is far better than trying to battle them once they have established themselves.
Do you have time for each other? Or has life blurred into a haze you pass through seemingly on your own? You need to be able to take time out just for your partner without all life's usual distractions. Learn to appreciate each other again outside the world of phones, bills and children. Time is our most precious commodity -- it is non-renewable, every moment should be used to our advantage because you never have a second chance. So filter a few precious minutes away from your jobs and chores and spend them with your spouse and strengthen that bond.
These are just a few ideas to get you thinking. Use your imagination and take yourself back to your courting days. Remember your enthusiasm? Rediscover it and put some back into your marriage. You don't need to do everything at once, just one step at a time, but keep practicing.
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