The aftermath of an argument or a breakup of a romance often results in feelings of guilt, hurt, anger and pain often due to words spoken in the heat of emotions.
Breaking up is hard to do as the words to the popular pop song used to caution us and there we were innocently dancing to it with stars in our eyes.
The reasons for breakups are often a result of a misunderstanding or even serious actions where the only recourse that seems fitting is to break up.
If you are one of those unfortunate people suffering the ache of a broken heart and pining to have your loved one back at your side then there are some important things you need to think about.
There are wounds left on both your hearts and the repair job will have to be done in a very tender manner.
It is a very difficult undertaking to examine yourself and determine the best way to handle the situation.
You need to carefully think things through and be able to see things from your partner's point of view.
Both of you will be in a very fragile state of mind so allowing a little time between you is best.
Whatever the issues are consider them important.
Conduct a self evaluation on yourself first.
You might even consider seeking advice from a counselor to know best how to present your emotions and be heard from the heart.
Enlist the help of a trusted friend especially one who appears to enjoy a healthy and mature relationship.
Be willing to listen and make changes you deem necessary.
Some criticism may be hard to hear.
But it is valuable information to help you win your love back.
As you work towards reconciliation be sensitive to your partners concerns and doubts.
This is when you need to be as tender as possible, willing to listen to their point of view.
Creating an emotional tirade is not the way to do it.
Acting in that manner will only serve to drive them further away.
Create an atmosphere of healing.
Be sure to respect the fact they may need more time to think.
Resist the urge to overwhelm them with affection.
Respecting some boundaries shows you understand.
Tenderness is a great attraction.
Be aware of any opportunities to show your soft side.
Because your love is motivated our of sincere desire your partner will have a softened heart towards you.
You may not be a tender person by nature but motivation to regain your relationship will change you ultimately.
Breaking up is hard to do as the words to the popular pop song used to caution us and there we were innocently dancing to it with stars in our eyes.
The reasons for breakups are often a result of a misunderstanding or even serious actions where the only recourse that seems fitting is to break up.
If you are one of those unfortunate people suffering the ache of a broken heart and pining to have your loved one back at your side then there are some important things you need to think about.
There are wounds left on both your hearts and the repair job will have to be done in a very tender manner.
It is a very difficult undertaking to examine yourself and determine the best way to handle the situation.
You need to carefully think things through and be able to see things from your partner's point of view.
Both of you will be in a very fragile state of mind so allowing a little time between you is best.
Whatever the issues are consider them important.
Conduct a self evaluation on yourself first.
You might even consider seeking advice from a counselor to know best how to present your emotions and be heard from the heart.
Enlist the help of a trusted friend especially one who appears to enjoy a healthy and mature relationship.
Be willing to listen and make changes you deem necessary.
Some criticism may be hard to hear.
But it is valuable information to help you win your love back.
As you work towards reconciliation be sensitive to your partners concerns and doubts.
This is when you need to be as tender as possible, willing to listen to their point of view.
Creating an emotional tirade is not the way to do it.
Acting in that manner will only serve to drive them further away.
Create an atmosphere of healing.
Be sure to respect the fact they may need more time to think.
Resist the urge to overwhelm them with affection.
Respecting some boundaries shows you understand.
Tenderness is a great attraction.
Be aware of any opportunities to show your soft side.
Because your love is motivated our of sincere desire your partner will have a softened heart towards you.
You may not be a tender person by nature but motivation to regain your relationship will change you ultimately.
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