People get so caught up in wanting to learn how to have the perfect relationship.
The truth is that there's no such thing as a 'right way' for relationships as they are all so different.
There's no 'right way' to be a good partner or spouse or to handle any of the multitude of different scenarios that could play out in the course of your relationship.
Rather that trying to adhere to a set system from a book or course concentrate instead on what is already working for you and your partner.
What's already working in the relationship can be like a signpost to help you fix the other areas which need attention.
By following some kind of forced relationship regime you could be travelling down the wrong path and ignoring the obvious answers.
It's far more personal to write your own principals than to follow someone else's, it is after all your relationship and it's unique to both of you as you are unique people.
Often we even have our own unique language when it comes to expressing how we love someone in our daily actions.
Do you understand how your partner expresses love? They can be doing it all the time but if you do not understand the particular way in which they express love it can go largely unnoticed.
But that doesn't mean that it's not there or of some lesser value.
The biggest resource you have for guidance is actually from your own past experience.
Pay attention to the lessons life tried to teach you and use them now when it really matters - in the present.
Let go of any blueprint for what is supposed to be 'normal' for a relationship and realise that yours in unique and as such, will take it's own path.