- 1). Acknowledge your feelings. During the denial phase, you believe that this is just a temporary separation. You deny that he's really left you and you believe that he's going to walk through the door any moment. Other common feelings during the denial phase include fear (How will I make ends meet without his income?), dread ( I don't want to date and find someone new) and panic (What can I do to make him love me again?) Learn to accept that you gained valuable experience during your marriage, but it is over.
- 2). Remove your wedding ring. Remove any photos of the two of you and keep them out of sight. The relationship is over so you don't need to see photos of the past, which includes the both of you. Remove any possession that reminds you of her.
- 3). Avoid contact with your ex. Avoid calling her, e-mailing her, asking friends about her, driving by her house or workplace. Each time you have contact with your ex, you create false hope that prolongs the denial phase.
- 4). Ask your friends to remind you of the negative aspects of your marriage when you begin to romanticize your partner or the marriage.
- 5). Make a list of all the things that made him a bad husband. Have at it. Write things such as he was a terrible lover, had an ugly face and was a slob. Reading this list as needed will remind you that he's not as perfect as you think, helping you to get over the denial phase faster.
- 6). Seek out professional help if you are harassing or stalking your spouse. Trying to force someone to love you can quickly lead to restraining orders and stalking charges.
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