Problems are bound to come up no matter how much you have in common and this is perfectly normal.
However, dealing with problems incorrectly can lead to deep feelings of resentment and hurt.
What you need to do is know how to handle them so that both parties can leave the issue with minimal negativity.
First of all, what is a good solution to a problem? Well there are two criteria for a good solution.
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The solution must meet most of the needs of both parties.
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The solution much be good for the relationship.
Now, how do you go about actually solving a problem constructively? I will show you how with the following steps.
Step #1 Pick a specific issue.
Choose an issue and only one issue.
Be as specific as you can get with the details of the issue.
Step #2 Brainstorm.
Come up with creative solutions to the problem.
Make sure both parties get to put in their own thoughts on the matter.
Remember, this is not a time to criticize or go off on tangents.
Stay on topic and stay focused on finding a solution.
Step #3 Agreement and Compromise.
Come up with a trial solution.
Not all solutions will work but you need to take action by choosing one and trying it.
Pick the best solution that you have come up with so far and follow through with it.
Step #4 Follow up on trial.
This is where you check in with your partner on that specific solution to see how it has been working for both of you.
If things have come up that you didn't predict, tweak the solution so that it is more workable.
Keep following up until the solution is satisfactory to both parties.