Ruffled feathers, refers to being upset or annoyed.
Being raised on a cattle ranch with chickens and birds galore, I know first hand--bird feathers do get ruffled when one bird annoys or upsets another bird in the flock.
Ruffled bird feathers are unmistakable--the reason is more elusive.
No doubt this is why the expression was applied to humans.
When someone is annoyed or upset, it is unmistakable, but the reason may remain elusive, not only for the person who set the stage, but for the person whose feathers were ruffled.
Studies reveal that anger and conflict release a toxic hormone, cortisol, into the system.
If anger and conflict are pervasive and little relief is attained, the body can become seriously impaired, leaving the body vulnerable to diseases.
Conflicts, when effectively dealt with, are great opportunities for growth.
Consistently apply the following skills and you will avoid having your feathers ruffled or avoid ruffling someone's feathers.
oAvoid emotional/knee jerk reactions.
The worst way to respond when dealing with a conflict is to become angry.
If you notice your anger button has been triggered, excuse yourself, take a deep breath.
Carefully think about what took place inside you.
What beliefs were set in motion?What past experiences are being replayed?Once you realize a belief or experience is replaying, take another deep breath.
Tell yourself soothing and calming statements.
When you are thinking clearly return to the conversation and you can discuss the matter objectively.
oBe a good listener:Listen from an objection point of view.
Before responding to a statement, ask a clarifying question.
Can you tell me more about it?See: [http://ezinearticles.
com/?Effective-Communication--A-100%-Responsibility&id=218373] oFind their Frame of Reference--a.
k.
a.
common ground.
Typically we focus on things we disagree on.
If you think about it, there's usually a lot more we agree about than we disagree about.
Acknowledge commonality and the situation is usually diffused.
Everyone dreads conflict to some degree.
If you have a particularly difficult conflict to resolve I would be honored to help.
Want to know something, I find fascinating?I've offered this to many people and I have not had any takers.
The reason may seem elusive.
However, there is a simple answer--most people find it easier and more comfortable to stay upset and play the martyr role.
It is a choice.
Neither you nor anyone needs to have ruffled feathers!Ruffled feathers are for the birds.
Being raised on a cattle ranch with chickens and birds galore, I know first hand--bird feathers do get ruffled when one bird annoys or upsets another bird in the flock.
Ruffled bird feathers are unmistakable--the reason is more elusive.
No doubt this is why the expression was applied to humans.
When someone is annoyed or upset, it is unmistakable, but the reason may remain elusive, not only for the person who set the stage, but for the person whose feathers were ruffled.
Studies reveal that anger and conflict release a toxic hormone, cortisol, into the system.
If anger and conflict are pervasive and little relief is attained, the body can become seriously impaired, leaving the body vulnerable to diseases.
Conflicts, when effectively dealt with, are great opportunities for growth.
Consistently apply the following skills and you will avoid having your feathers ruffled or avoid ruffling someone's feathers.
oAvoid emotional/knee jerk reactions.
The worst way to respond when dealing with a conflict is to become angry.
If you notice your anger button has been triggered, excuse yourself, take a deep breath.
Carefully think about what took place inside you.
What beliefs were set in motion?What past experiences are being replayed?Once you realize a belief or experience is replaying, take another deep breath.
Tell yourself soothing and calming statements.
When you are thinking clearly return to the conversation and you can discuss the matter objectively.
oBe a good listener:Listen from an objection point of view.
Before responding to a statement, ask a clarifying question.
Can you tell me more about it?See: [http://ezinearticles.
com/?Effective-Communication--A-100%-Responsibility&id=218373] oFind their Frame of Reference--a.
k.
a.
common ground.
Typically we focus on things we disagree on.
If you think about it, there's usually a lot more we agree about than we disagree about.
Acknowledge commonality and the situation is usually diffused.
Everyone dreads conflict to some degree.
If you have a particularly difficult conflict to resolve I would be honored to help.
Want to know something, I find fascinating?I've offered this to many people and I have not had any takers.
The reason may seem elusive.
However, there is a simple answer--most people find it easier and more comfortable to stay upset and play the martyr role.
It is a choice.
Neither you nor anyone needs to have ruffled feathers!Ruffled feathers are for the birds.
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