Many people find it very difficult to meet others for the first time, especially when they're in a room full of strangers.
It's called social anxiety disorder shyness.
Their hands tend to sweat and tremble and worst of all, they blush.
This was me as a child! I remember to this day, other kids pointing and laughing as I turned a deep, beet red.
They were terrible experiences.
When it advances with you into adulthood, blushing especially, it may even cause a person to leave a job.
A variation on this theme are hands that shake when the person finds themselves under any type of pressure.
Signing their names can cause some people to go to pieces.
Their hands shake so much, any thought of a signature is out of the question.
I read about this dental hygienist who's hands started to shake as soon as the patient sat in the chair.
One way of ridding yourself of these shakes is taking the opposite approach.
Let's look at the hygienist.
Just a fleeting memory of the other times she's shaken is enough to cause her hand to go into uncontrollable shudders.
Naturally, she becomes very upset and tries everything to stop these shakes.
She tries to rid herself of them mentally.
She tenses her muscles, but all her efforts accomplish is to make things worse.
So instead of trying to force her hand to be still, she should simply let it shake.
Even encourage it.
In so doing, she relieves the pressure under which she's placed herself and the shakes will begin to fade away.
It's like anxiety generally.
The more you try to fight it, the worse it becomes.
So move with the experience, not against it.
The other point is that if the hygienist didn't care what others thought of her shaking, the problem would disappear overnight.
But it's this bugbear of other's perceptions of you.
The patient may be a little alarmed at first, so make a joke about it.
"I haven't knocked anyone's teeth out yet.
" You can both have a chuckle and her hand will settle down.
After all, when you're at home, you don't blush, tremble or sweat.
It's simply this nervousness about being around others.
An excellent way of helping yourself is by the visualization technique.
When you're at home in the evening, imagine yourself in the situation where you start to shake, tremble, blush or whatever affects you.
Why does my hand shake? you may ask yourself.
What reason is there for it to shake? There isn't one.
Visualize over a few evenings, and you'll find yourself settling down.
And if your hand does keep shaking, or you keep blushing, there's nothing whatever to be upset about.
Simply accept it.
People with social anxieties are usually too hard on themselves.
They distort the reality of the situation, when those around them are probably quite unaware that there's anything wrong.
It's called social anxiety disorder shyness.
Their hands tend to sweat and tremble and worst of all, they blush.
This was me as a child! I remember to this day, other kids pointing and laughing as I turned a deep, beet red.
They were terrible experiences.
When it advances with you into adulthood, blushing especially, it may even cause a person to leave a job.
A variation on this theme are hands that shake when the person finds themselves under any type of pressure.
Signing their names can cause some people to go to pieces.
Their hands shake so much, any thought of a signature is out of the question.
I read about this dental hygienist who's hands started to shake as soon as the patient sat in the chair.
One way of ridding yourself of these shakes is taking the opposite approach.
Let's look at the hygienist.
Just a fleeting memory of the other times she's shaken is enough to cause her hand to go into uncontrollable shudders.
Naturally, she becomes very upset and tries everything to stop these shakes.
She tries to rid herself of them mentally.
She tenses her muscles, but all her efforts accomplish is to make things worse.
So instead of trying to force her hand to be still, she should simply let it shake.
Even encourage it.
In so doing, she relieves the pressure under which she's placed herself and the shakes will begin to fade away.
It's like anxiety generally.
The more you try to fight it, the worse it becomes.
So move with the experience, not against it.
The other point is that if the hygienist didn't care what others thought of her shaking, the problem would disappear overnight.
But it's this bugbear of other's perceptions of you.
The patient may be a little alarmed at first, so make a joke about it.
"I haven't knocked anyone's teeth out yet.
" You can both have a chuckle and her hand will settle down.
After all, when you're at home, you don't blush, tremble or sweat.
It's simply this nervousness about being around others.
An excellent way of helping yourself is by the visualization technique.
When you're at home in the evening, imagine yourself in the situation where you start to shake, tremble, blush or whatever affects you.
Why does my hand shake? you may ask yourself.
What reason is there for it to shake? There isn't one.
Visualize over a few evenings, and you'll find yourself settling down.
And if your hand does keep shaking, or you keep blushing, there's nothing whatever to be upset about.
Simply accept it.
People with social anxieties are usually too hard on themselves.
They distort the reality of the situation, when those around them are probably quite unaware that there's anything wrong.
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