ADHD Coaching Tip - The Biggest Problem With Helping Others - Even Those With ADHD
ADHD coaching or support is no different than any other type of help.
There is typically one person who is identified as having a problem.
There are several people in that one person's life who know they need help, and who may even have the answer to all of their problems.
Yet there is one major setback.
The person who needs to change, has to want to change.
It's that simple.
If the person who is struggling does not clearly make it known to you, and particularly to themselves, then change will not occur.
At least, not true change that will make an impact on their lives.
The individual with ADHD is no different.
Despite their constant struggle with symptoms like not being able to focus, not completing tasks, or even not being able to sit still, if the person does not want to change, change will not come.
This can be particularly different with a child, because he or she might not really know yet what to do in order to make a lasting change.
Children might not really understand how their behavior is related to their symptoms, or how problems in school could be related to their ADHD and not them as a person.
ADHD can be quite scary for a child.
Yet at the same time, it can be rather confusing and more unknown than anything else.
Forget about research at this point.
Consider the reality of how likely someone is to change.
We might speak about change, we might dream about change, but actually implementing change is the real test.
For any number of reasons, we can resist change.
Motivation to change is the key to success with anyone who wants to change, particularly someone struggling with symptoms of ADHD.
Despite the best intentions of those around us, we cannot force change, no matter how hard we try.
Change must come from self-motivation.
This is the one thing that must come from within the person who is struggling.
This one factor can mean the difference between change and ongoing struggle with any disorder, problem, and even with ADHD.
There is typically one person who is identified as having a problem.
There are several people in that one person's life who know they need help, and who may even have the answer to all of their problems.
Yet there is one major setback.
The person who needs to change, has to want to change.
It's that simple.
If the person who is struggling does not clearly make it known to you, and particularly to themselves, then change will not occur.
At least, not true change that will make an impact on their lives.
The individual with ADHD is no different.
Despite their constant struggle with symptoms like not being able to focus, not completing tasks, or even not being able to sit still, if the person does not want to change, change will not come.
This can be particularly different with a child, because he or she might not really know yet what to do in order to make a lasting change.
Children might not really understand how their behavior is related to their symptoms, or how problems in school could be related to their ADHD and not them as a person.
ADHD can be quite scary for a child.
Yet at the same time, it can be rather confusing and more unknown than anything else.
Forget about research at this point.
Consider the reality of how likely someone is to change.
We might speak about change, we might dream about change, but actually implementing change is the real test.
For any number of reasons, we can resist change.
- We are set in our ways.
- There is comfort in what is known.
- There is fear of the unknown.
- There is lack of information.
- We don't how to implement.
- We are too unorganized to effectively change.
Motivation to change is the key to success with anyone who wants to change, particularly someone struggling with symptoms of ADHD.
Despite the best intentions of those around us, we cannot force change, no matter how hard we try.
Change must come from self-motivation.
This is the one thing that must come from within the person who is struggling.
This one factor can mean the difference between change and ongoing struggle with any disorder, problem, and even with ADHD.
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