Having recently jumped wholeheartedly into planning my sister's bridal shower, I know just how much information is out there on throwing the perfect party. The advice is extensive, and the websites grow repetitive as you search for unique ways to make this a meaningful day for the bride.

This handy guide covers all the basics in one place, and offers tips on reducing your stress and budget while mapping out your plan for this important rite of passage before the wedding.


It includes: 

• The most frequently asked questions about bridal showers
• Tips for Throwing a Great Bridal Shower
• Ideas to Make Bridal Shower Gift Opening Fun
• Memorable Bridal Shower Games
• Activities that Create Meaningful Moments
  

Frequently Asked Questions About Bridal Showers

What is a Bridal Shower? 

In nearly every culture, female relatives and friends gather together to shower the bride with gifts that she needs once she is married. These essential items, which range from lingerie to linens to kitchen wares, became part of her dowry or bridal trousseau. Trousseau parties developed in Victorian England in which guests came to view the items and contribute their own. The modern bridal shower is a twist on this tradition, and has been a staple of American weddings since the 1930s. The party typically includes food, games and gifts. 

Who is Hosting?

The shower is hosted by a bridesmaid, usually the maid of honor, but everyone in the wedding party should help plan and pay for the party. Etiquette mavens tsk their tongue over the mother of the bride hosting the shower, but few people these days find it tacky.

As the host, ask each bridesmaid what they want to do and then divide up the tasks and expenses. It is completely acceptable to have separate showers hosted by both sides of the family and by coworkers.

Where is the Location?

Bridal showers are usually held at the home of the hostess or mother of the bride. Private rooms in restaurants are acceptable, but just remember that you are asking people to buy food and drinks on top of buying a present, which can shortchange the bride. Community club houses and gardens are also great places to have a bridal shower.

When is the Party?

While surprise parties were once common, most modern brides and guests prefer a little notice.The bridal shower is traditionally held one to three months before the wedding, and the invitations should be mailed one month before the party. It’s impossible to pick a date that works for everyone, but consider the schedules of the bride’s immediate family and the bridesmaids. The party is generally in the afternoon on a weekend although brunch teas are common. 

Who’s Coming to the Party?

Since the cost of the party rises as the guest list grows, you need to have an honest conversation with the bride about how many people you can realistically accommodate based on cost and space. Only people invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower. Two months before, narrow down the invites to roughly 40 people. A guest list much larger probably requires a separate party. 

Next: Tips for Hosting the Bridal Shower